Communicating with a Soul Mate
Posted by Intuition Girl
Dear Joan,
I’ve been separated from my fiancé and soul mate for a year and a half now. Legal and immigration issues have prevented him from coming back to the US, and this has hit him pretty hard and is suffering what seems to me as depression, although I can’t be sure…it may be some post traumatic stress disorder, or just a complete feeling of wanting to give up fighting because he has not been successful in sorting things out and getting back here with me. We used to speak for hours every day, but these past three weeks, I get brief emails, mostly telling me that he’s not the man I fell in love with, that he doesn’t deserve me, and every day is a struggle marked with brick walls which for him keep getting higher and harder. I want to make plans to see him there, as well as to meet with an immigration lawyer to get the ball rolling on a fiancé’s visa so we can be married and live here happily at last! He has stopped phoning…I continue to email, leave voicemails, and texts, I ask for him to not shut me out and let me help him, but it’s been three excruciatingly painful weeks of no communication. I don’t know what I can do for him. How do I know what he needs from me? Should I continue to communicate and reach out to him as best I can and be patient that he will get some help (as I suggested) and will start to communicate with me again when he is ready? His emails assure me that he is still loves me…here’s his latest email to me:
Baby I am sorry… I find it hard enough to get through each day at the moment…. I am not the person you fell in love with right now… things continually go wrong…. and I keep hitting brick walls at speed…. and at the moment they are getting higher and harder…… your name is on my heart…. you have my heart and you always will… you know that… truly deep down…. and you are now and always will be my best friend… sorry for not letting you be there for me.. that was wrong… so wrong….. I love you now and for eternity darling… oxoxo
Joan Marie, can you give me some guidance as to what I need to do to help him get through this? I want to marry him…he’s my soul mate….but right now he is so lost. Is there still a happily ever after for us? Any assistance you can give me would be more appreciated than you’ll ever know….I need to know what I can do to help him keep fighting and not give up. I thank you for your time and consideration to this request for help.
Most sincerely,
Diane S.
Joan Marie’s Answer
Hi Diane:
I understand your desperation in wanting to help him. I do agree that you should continue to keep reaching out to him. Right now he is feeling hopeless and sad that it is like why bother? What you need to do is ask him to be honest with you: Does he want to be with you? Does he want to come to the states? What is it that he truly wants? You also need to ask him: “Has he made a decision to stay where he is?” He needs to make a decision to say “yes” you are a team and can work through this together or not. Life throws all of us many curve balls. However, if we give up than we have not only lost what we wanted but we gave our power over to the circumstance instead of to ourselves. I believe he needs to be honest with you and be in truth with what he wants.
I feel that the main question to ask him is: Does he want you to move on with out him or figure our how to solve this with him. This you need to know.
When we get into a serious depressed state or when many emotional situations arise in our lives, they happen so that we can learn to deal with them and heal from them as we learn our many valuable lessons. I believe what he is experiencing right now has a purpose—and he is the one who needs to be in truth with who he is and what is his life’s purpose. It is all about him being willing to open up first to himself and then to you and have a platform for open and honest communication. The focus is not on life ending but rather for life beginning at a far greater and deeper level.
We all have the ability to unlock the door and follow the light—if we choose it.
Many Blessings,
Chronic Dreamer
Posted by Intuition Girl
Dear Joan
I’ve wanted to call you while you have been on Whoopi’s morning show, but haven’t had the opportunity. I wanted to ask you about something unique that many might not have asked you about. I’m a chronic dreamer. I remember just about every dream I have. I really dislike it, because when I wake in the morning, it feels like I’ve not slept. Most dreams are just about every day events and aren’t too stressful. However, I all too often have very bad nightmares. (1-2 night terrors a year, or even in one night is just too much) I cannot interpret them since most of them are paranormal ones. They are about dead people, or people dying, or violently scary, posessions, etc. These nightmares terrify me, and seem to happen on nights when I go to sleep without a worry on my mind when I’m falling asleep. They tend to be more vibrant if I’m really busy with school or have a lot of things going on with my life.
My normal dreams I tend to understand why I have them, for instance random things like being frugal with money, etc.
I have been through a lot in the past years I guess, and would like to know if I will have peace of mind and be able to seek that happiness with myself and in life.
Thank you for your time if you do read and receive this.
Mimi Miller
Joan Marie’s Answer
HI Mimi:
You actually answered this yourself. You need to learn peace of mind right now. The dreams are a symbolism of restlessness in your everyday life. I believe you either feel guilty or have not let go of something from your past and you are punishing yourself for it. I honestly would like you to meditate and start knowing peace while you are awake. I would encourage you to listen to my “Forgiveness Healing CD.” Many others have told me that that CD has helped them release old emotions. I believe your old emotions are being expressed in your violent dreams. When you learn to live in inner peace and calm your dream state will change. You are also very intuitive and it might behoove you to purchase “How to Tap into Your Intuitive Powers”. There are four powerful meditations in this program that will assist you with releasing what no longer serves you and help you become grounded in your body as you learn to protect yourself energetically.
I believe you should engage in a house clearing and a Soul Clearing. You can buy a white candle and set the intention to clear out any old energy from your house and from your life. You may also want to take a bath with some sea salts and place white rose pedals in the tub. Soak in the tub for at least 20-30 minutes and then as the water is draining from the tub you can feel all the energy of your past releasing as it is being flushed away.
I encourage you to find peace with your life today. Fall in love with your lessons and spend time in nature. Surround yourself with beautiful flowers right now. Spend time in nature and stand next to a tree; these experiences will assist in being grounded as you feel your feet begin to root into the earth and support you. Learn to become grounded; all my meditation CDs teach you this. We live on earth in the here and now and you need to learn to only live in the present moment.
Enjoy the blessings of being you.
I hope that helps
Home sick in a new state
Posted by Intuition Girl
Dear Joan,
I am 33 years of age and have two girls that I am raising my self. I just relocated to the state of Maryland because when living in New York my life was falling apart right in front of my eyes. So I pack up my children and left New York. So now it’s been about 5 months since I have been in Maryland and I am home sick. It seems that I can not make it out here. I am temping now but I need a permanent job because all my NY bills followed me. I want to do so much but it seems that I can’t do it. I feel like my past is haunting me. I want to go back but if I do it seems in my eyes that I failed.
I want to start my own business but I am very scared to. It seems that I am never satisfy in what I do and it always seem like I have to do more. I think I moved to fast and didn’t really have time to heal with my issues in New York. It was a stressful event that was holding me back so I left or more likely I should say, “I ran”.
I just want to know what should I do.
Confessed
Julie
Dear Julie
First of all there are no accidents in life! Having said that, I would like you sit down with “you” and take a deep breath and be at peace with the situation that you are in right now. This is a very important step for you to take in order to release once and for all your past reasons for why you believed you needed to run.
I have often said that life is about experiences. So right now I ask you to be willing to face the experiences that you are having and address them through an open and honest communication with yourself. It would be beneficial if you could fall in love with where you are right now. I suggest you allow this encounter to teach you how to become a leader in your life over all your experiences.
Now is the time for you to build a solid foundation emotionally and financially for yourself as you create stability for you and your family.
Do your homework; get educated, gain clarity with the direction that you want to move towards. It does not sound as though you did your ground work before you moved and that is why you are feeling frightened.
So again, I encourage you to sit down in quiet with yourself, create your blueprint with defined goals and values and determine what your purpose is and what will bring you joy.
Once you have a clear vision and understanding as to what you want to do on a daily basis, you will feel more comfortable and in control of your outcome.
Julie, I believe you need to set the groundwork now for what you want to create in the future. I hope that makes sense.
Go to bed every night feeling proud and happy of who you are and what you are doing. Know that the Universe will provide you with the job once you have clarity and know where you belong.
Blessings on your Journey
Reconnecting with your abilities
Posted by Intuition Girl
Dear Joan
I am a natural psychic. I started developing my gift when I joined a circle at college in 2001. I showed immediate potential. And I was soon offering mediumistic readings to friends of friends, able to give names and fine details. Over the years thought I have felt more and more disconnected, past year and past few months have seemed to become more and more frustrating for me. I just feel like I am blocked to my true potential, it’s like what I used to be able to do is just a dream now.
I know this happens to other very good psychics; hey I have helped some get back in their power again! Even my very respected teacher had her bad patches, if it’s just the way it is, what does one do professionally and reading wise to retain full integrity? Just stop reading for people?
If you could assist in any way, that would be a blessing,
Very confused!
Jamie
Hi Jamie
This is a very powerful question. It is my belief that the gift never leaves you but that you push the gifts away. I feel that what has really happened is that your talents and or gifts have been covered up by some emotional blockage that needs to be released. Possibly you have not done your work! By that I mean that you have stopped doing your grounding work, your meditation work and staying focused and balanced in who you are and what you choose to accomplish.
You still have the abilities; you simply have forgotten how to utilize them. You are no longer a clear vessel who is open to hear the messages and be the medium between the two worlds that you once were.
The truth is, you are still a psychic, however you have allowed emotional blockages, insecurity, unworthiness and fear to come into your field and that has blinded you from going to a far greater place with your gifts.
I am very grateful to say that I have never been without my gift, but I am constantly doing my work so that I stay grounded, clear and focused. All of my products specialize in grounding, clearing and healing work to open you up to a far greater level of awakening your intuition.
Fright is preventing you from going to your next level. “How to tap into your intuitive powers” is also an extremely valuable program that you should look into. You can go to the site of www.joanmariewhelan.com and examine this product. I believe it will help bring you back on track.
I hope that helps,
Coping with a loved one’s addiction
Posted by Intuition Girl
I have been living with an on and off drug user for seven years and I’ve finally decided to leave him although he is not using his drug of choice for almost nine months now. I just don’t feel safe. Am I doing the right thing while he is off his drug of choice? I don’t want to wait for another relapse.
Thank you for letting me share.
Blessings,
Jeannie G.
Dear Jeannie
Thank you for having the courage to write me. It is not my job to ever tell you or another what to do. It is my job to show you how you can see the truth for yourself and see the strength inside of you to make the decision that is best for you.
First and foremost, you must always follow your feelings, they are always right. Second of all, I suggest that you listen to your heart. The question that you need to ask is: The feelings that you are experiencing with your boyfriend on a daily basis—do they feel good to you? Are you excited to be with him on a regular basis? You also must have clarity with what it is you are looking for in life. The only way your boyfriend is going to change completely and stop using drugs is if he makes peace with the reason’s why he needed to have the addiction in the first place.
You must value you, and make you a priority and understand that you can decide your fate because you do have choices. Never stay in any one place because of money or need for dependency or security. When we take our greatest risks and feel comfortable with who we are that is when we can make our decisions from strength and courage. Then the end result is heaven sent. I hope that helps.
