Teaching Children: You are Enough
Posted by Intuition Girl
Question # 1
Dear Joan Marie:
I have a friend whose 12-year old child just had a serious accident. He injured himself while playing with friends. In his short life, he has injured himself several times and has ended up receiving stitches, having a concussion and now injuring his eyes. I was wondering if you had any insight into this child and his situation. I believe that he subconsciously is seeking attention but the results always seem to cause him and his family great pain.
I would really like to hear if you can give me your thoughts on this situation and child.
Thank you, Terry W.
ANSWER
Dear Terry:
Thank you for your email. I do feel that this child is unconsciously craving attention. I believe that deep within himself he is feeling very insecure and is seeking extra attention. The best advice for this child and all of us who are seeking outside approval is to learn that you are enough. I want to repeat that statement: “You are enough.”
How we teach a child this is that we ourselves as parents need to feel whole within as well. The best thing this family can do and anyone who relates to this question is to have in depth communication as a family. In today’s world, we are all too busy rushing and doing things just to keep busy and consequently, we do not spend enough of time simply being and feeling. This state of contentment can only happen when we slow down and actually observe our lives and the lives of those that we are intimately connected to. It is important for all parties to feel safe so they can open their heart and express what is going on deep within their core.
Understanding that you are enough—is a learned art, and is as equally important as loving and appreciating all of you. If each one of us would understand that we alone are enough the world would be a much better place.
Enjoy the blessings of being you,
Joan Marie, the Gift – Intuition Girl
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Changing Focus to Change your Emotional State
Posted by Intuition Girl
QUESTION # 2
I am feeling all over the place. I am starting to feel cluttered in my mind and in my home and as a result, I am also feeling anxious. I am assuming that both feelings are interconnected but I honestly don’t know.
The holiday season is usually a time of great excitement, so I am wondering if that has something to do with it. In all honesty, I would like to feel more relaxed and at ease with myself…but it doesn’t seem to be happening.
I need help and I am hoping you will be able to give it to me. I don’t want to get sick and I certainly don’t want to create an accident because of my emotional state. Thank you
Lorraine C.
ANSWER:
Dear Lorraine:
Thank you for sharing where you are. I am sure there are many who are feeling the same way. The holiday season often finds people feeling anxious and sometimes out of control. When that happens to you, take several deep breathes in and relax. You are in control of your behavior and emotional state. Remember that!
Do not allow your circumstances to dictate your life. How do you do that?
1. When you recognize that anxious state, immediately try to shift your energy. Think of something that is calming and relaxing.
2. Change your focus—a short prayer or mantra helps me center and ground myself and it definitely shifts my energy.
3. Daily morning meditation ( even for a few moments) will help set the mood for the day.
4. Clean up your space—whether at home or work. Physical clutter is the breeding ground for mental and spiritual clutter.
5. Good eating habits and regular exercise are vital for your overall state of being. Junk food weights you down in more ways than one and keeps you sluggish.
A brisk walk once or twice a day will help you stay balanced. I find this process important for my personal overall healthy state.
6. Get a good night sleep – that is not silly but absolutely necessary for maintaining a healthy state of mind.
All of the above takes discipline and effort on your part. There are certainly times in my life when I want to give into my lesser ego self, but I truly know and understand that if I want a healthy and balanced life and if I want to enjoy the abundance that life has to offer, I—no one else—it is “I” who must decide what choices I honestly need to make to reach my desired outcome.
This can be a wonderful and playful time of year. I warmly invite you to practice these steps because I know you will begin to enjoy yourself more. Celebrate your blessings and honor you for who you are.
Many Blessings,
Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
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Awakening your Authentic Self to the Laws of Universal Flow
Posted by Intuition Girl
QUESTION # 1
Dear Joan Marie,
I am a spiritual person and enjoy reading and listening to pretty much everything to make my life better and keep me on my charted path. I believe in the law of Attraction and affirmations – although, I ‘m having a difficult time understanding the time it takes to get results. It seems that one negative thought gets faster results than 1000 positive ones. Why is this? I’ll try and catch a negative thought and change it.
Also, the saying – “I can’t afford that” this is a mind virus, but, when I look at my bank account how do I overlook the lack of money? Would you suggest to spend over your income because you know and believe that the money will come?
I don’t want to be foolish and irresponsible – I’m asking this sincerely and respectfully.
E. Campbell
Answer
Dear E. Campbell:
I honor you for your desire and willingness to grow and learn but please understand that there is a big difference between the process of seeking knowledge in information and living the process. Once you begin to live a life of unquestioning trust in the process of the Laws of Universal Flow, your life can change dramatically and things can happen very quickly. The truth is you must deal with all your emotional blocks and beliefs tied in with money—your fears, worthiness and other emotional issues that are preventing your flow. If time is elapsing and your desires are not being met than you must look at your own inner self. Do you actually believe you can create that which you are seeking? Are you prepared for the change coming into your life? In order to attract positive flow in your life- your internal vibration – mind-body and soul must be in alignment. In my various programs, I teach this process.
Every thought and action together with our behavior patterns is brought about through our habits and our beliefs. We can cultivate good habits as easily as we create destructive habits—it is a choice. Being conscious of where you are placing your energy and disciplining your mind are vital to your success. The depth of the knowingness in your mind, body and spirit will deepen as your emotional blocks are released and your feelings of self-worth and value improve.
It sounds as though you are fighting a war in your mind – it is between your authentic self who wants to awaken and become more whole and your ego self who likes you just the way you are. For your true self to win this battle, you must be the leader in your life and be the one voice in charge. I often say to all negative thoughts –”that is a lie- the truth is this.” It is up to you to state your truth and own it.
Attraction is not just about positive thoughts- it is about owning your thoughts- knowing without a grain of doubt that they are true and living them. I hope all this helps. I could go on for pages with all of this but this is a great start for you. The most important suggestion I can offer you is: “Never give up.” Continue on your quest and allow your journey to be a fun-filled adventure and a gift.
Many Blessings,
Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
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Straight Talk with Joan Marie: Rebuilding your Self Image to Stop Procrastinating
Posted by Intuition Girl
Question 2:
Dear Joan Marie:
I love receiving your newsletters and Monday morning inspiration. You are like a breath of fresh air that I need to breathe in on a daily basis. My question to you is that I procrastinate often. I know that I need to get certain things done but I continually put them off. I do it with bills, my business; and I constantly create turmoil within myself. Can you help me understand why I do this? Thank you so much for your time.
Sincerely,
Samantha Harding
Answer:
Dear Samantha:
Procrastination is often an issue wrapped around lack of self worth. It sounds as if you are creating an endless cycle for yourself to keep you in an emotional state of conflict. The key for you is to heal your emotional state. I suggest that you daily begin to talk to yourself and share with your Inner Soul, Your Authentic Self, all the good things that you are accomplishing. List several things that you are contributing towards that are blessings in your life.
Leadership is a common thread that weaves in the lives of all of us. How we envision our talents and skills determines how we project ourselves out into the world. I believe it is about you being a leader in your life. When are you going to step up and say I am worth it? You need to re-build your self-image and feel confident in your abilities. Trust your decisions and choices and know that structured time will help you move past your hesitation. Unworthiness is a learned condition that is no longer serving you. You need to create new habits within yourself and for yourself on a daily consistent basis in order for you to realize your true value.
Many Blessings,
Straight Talk with Joan Marie: Creating Space for Loving Relationships
Posted by Intuition Girl
Question 1:
Dear Joan Marie:
I don’t know where to start; I am with a good man and I love him—the thing is, that we also live with his family, and never have any space or time for us and it is getting to me. I have tried to talk to him but he will not move and get us our own place to live. I have also tried to think of it as a good thing and tried to do and say all the right things but I don’t feel like it is my home. I feel like a prisoner, I stay in my room and I don’t eat all day until he comes home or I go to work and eat there. Maybe you could give me some words of wisdom to get me through this mess.
From,
Cynthia
Answer:
Dear Cynthia:
I understand that you are in a tough situation right now. My feeling is you and your partner need to sit down and make this a win/win for the both of you. Honest and sincere communication is one of the fundamental traits for a healthy and lasting relationship. It is important that you feel comfortable and accepted in your home environment and if you are both equally in love and wanting to make your relationship work, it will take both of you to commit to a mutual resolution.
I guess my first thought is to work on finding a solution that will satisfy both of you. If this living arrangement is temporary because he is working on saving money for your future home and life together, then you both need to set a time line and work towards that goal. For any relationship to last requires compromise and open communication; however, if he plans to live indefinitely with his family because he can’t see himself separated from them, you need to know that truth so you can find a solution that will best serve you, your heart and your health.
Before you moved into his families home, some of these discussions and points needed to be resolved. But since you are already knee deep into an environment that intimidates and stifles you, you my friend are the one who needs to make wise decisions. Either you accept the situation or change it. The power is within you. This is a great opportunity for you to step up and be a leader over your life. If this is your home too than you can make the best of it and enjoy your surroundings. No one is asking you to hide in your room. Some hard choices will need to be made by you. It definitely takes courage and strength on your part but when you decide to take charge of this situation and equally implement change with your partner, you will feel much better.
