Looking in all the Wrong Places: 5 Personality Types in Relationships
Posted by Intuition Girl
True love is sometimes difficult to define and can be even more difficult to discover in our lives. But it is when we are not so desperately searching for it, that it finds us. The difference here is that when love “finds” you, it is simply because you have opened yourself up to the possibility of a relationship.
What do you want out of a love relationship? Is it romance, a safe environment, a trusting friendship, security or a soul-mate? You say you want it all? You can have a lasting and true relationship if you stop looking in all the wrong places and open your mind, body and spirit to the potential that exists around you:
1. The “needy” relationship – if you are drawing “needy” people in your life it is often because you come across as strong and dependable but in truth, you are needy yourself and are like a magnet drawing that energy to you. Strong and dependable are wonderful attributes to have. But in order to attract equally strong personalities in your life, you have to go where those prospects exist. If you are frequenting the bar scene, you might be limiting your potential. Try attending arts and crafts shows, musical events, community seminars, plays, and other educational and enlightening venues. You may just bump into your future soul mate.
2. The “fast and furious” relationship—if you find yourself in these types of partnerships, you will notice that you might mesh well on the onset but then things turn sour quickly. It becomes a relationship of anxious gratification and constant struggle. You might have an exciting love life, but the dialog is hot and tempered. You transcend these types of relationships by a deeper look at your relationship and allow your love to be nurtured slowly and carefully. Remember, only fools rush in. Don’t do it!
3. The “weighted” relationship – this is an interesting one. This is the relationship where you discover that your mate is carrying two tons of baggage in his/her life. This person traps you—and the next thing you know, you are battling their inner demons and you’re weighted down along with your partner. The truth is that we all carry around a little more emotional baggage than we should. When we learn to let go of it, we begin attracting like-minded, like-spirited people in our lives, which is ultimately what we desire.
4. The “rope-a-dope” relationship – what? Yes, there are those individuals who just want to have a short fling and are not seriously interested in a long-term relationship. You can easily detect these potential partners by their often aloof conversations and avoidance issues. That personality may offer you his/her heart on their sleeve, but he/she will not take you home to have dinner with you and he/she won’t introduce you to their friends. It is perfectly natural to wait a while before bringing your significant other to family reunions and the like, but be careful if you begin noticing signs of secrecy or evasion.
5. The “OCD” relationship – Obsessive Compulsive Disorder– You think you have found the perfect partner. He wants to do everything for you. In fact, he does everything for you. Then you begin to realize that you no longer can do anything for or by yourself. These individuals, though well intentioned, can quickly put a cramp in your lifestyle and begin to control every aspect in your life. The smartest step anyone should take when entering a love relationship is to lay down some ground rules. That does not mean one should be brash and demanding, but for all sanity purposes, be sure to let your potential partner know how you feel and that there are some things in your routine that you would like to keep your own. Having your personal sacred space is often a healthy way to maintain an endearing relationship. Remember, to treat yourself and everyone else with love, when you do, everything else falls into place. Aim for a common ground. The care with which you approach any relationship will be reflected in your attitude and behavior.
Overall, it is vital that you keep your wits about you and instead of jumping into a relationship heart-first, take it slow and easy. To build a lasting foundation built on trust, love and understanding, you must first fall in love with yourself and then the rest will follow. It is a constant process of tuning into your gut-feelings, your intuitive abilities. Allow your intuition to guide your way. You will be glad you did.
Joan Marie
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