Coping with a loved one’s addiction
Posted by Intuition Girl
I have been living with an on and off drug user for seven years and I’ve finally decided to leave him although he is not using his drug of choice for almost nine months now. I just don’t feel safe. Am I doing the right thing while he is off his drug of choice? I don’t want to wait for another relapse.
Thank you for letting me share.
Blessings,
Jeannie G.
Dear Jeannie
Thank you for having the courage to write me. It is not my job to ever tell you or another what to do. It is my job to show you how you can see the truth for yourself and see the strength inside of you to make the decision that is best for you.
First and foremost, you must always follow your feelings, they are always right. Second of all, I suggest that you listen to your heart. The question that you need to ask is: The feelings that you are experiencing with your boyfriend on a daily basis—do they feel good to you? Are you excited to be with him on a regular basis? You also must have clarity with what it is you are looking for in life. The only way your boyfriend is going to change completely and stop using drugs is if he makes peace with the reason’s why he needed to have the addiction in the first place.
You must value you, and make you a priority and understand that you can decide your fate because you do have choices. Never stay in any one place because of money or need for dependency or security. When we take our greatest risks and feel comfortable with who we are that is when we can make our decisions from strength and courage. Then the end result is heaven sent. I hope that helps.
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