You can’t take it with you
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Recently, a friend of mine attended a funeral of a not-so-distant and humble relative. Like most funerals, the occasion was somber. An older but kindly preacher who personally knew the deceased presided over the reading of the eulogy. As he spoke with a long, southern drawl, he discussed the life of the late beloved. In the midst of his tributary, he stopped and took a lengthy breath. He then told the multitude of mourners how fondly so many had spoken of the departed. In fact, every individual who had been touched by this person talked about what a “good man” he was. But then the preacher said something else…something unexpected. He looked around the parish and as he did, he relayed another important message about the man. He talked about how this individual had throughout his life been repeatedly taken advantage of by friends and family; but each and every time, this same individual would turn right back around and help those same folks regardless of what she or he had done to him. I asked my friend if this was in fact the case, and she conceded that it was the truth. Imagine that!
How many of us journey through life holding onto grudges for the wrongs that people have done to us? How many of us live day-to-day, licking our emotional wounds? For every moment we spend harping on those past hurts and negative feelings, we are one step closer to the demise of our own life force; as some call Chi. 
We could all stand to learn a lesson from the departed man in this piece. Here was an individual, humble beyond all means – a man who continually gave and gave until he could give no more. And in the end, he left a legacy that not many can call their own. His legacy was one of forgiveness, compassion and honor. Because he honored those around him, he had enough compassion to share his worldly possessions and yet time and time again, forgave them for their transgressions, their lack of return and even their lack of respect. In this individual’s life, he did not allow others’ lack to rule his emotions. In addition, he did not allow his own lack of material belongings control his own state of mind or his life.
Many of us have wealth beyond wealth but we do not see it. How so? Because we have not learned to let go of the past, we have enabled our negative state of consciousness to rule our vision, our emotions, and sadly, every waking moment of our lives. Our regrets, sorrows, anger, resentment, fear, animosity, and other feelings of lack start to creep into our life force. Before we know it, we have salt pouring into an open wound day in and day out. And every time we harp on those negative emotions, we are destroying a little bit more of our life force – that energetic core of our being, our quintessential purpose for living.
From this moment on, I want you to reflect on your life and where you are right now. Are you still mad at an old beau? Still beating yourself up for the job you lost? No matter what it is you are dealing with at the present moment, it cannot be more powerful than your life force and your willingness to let go of the past. Forgive your significant other. Forgive yourself. Now. Do not hesitate. Do not look back. Forgiveness is essentially giving back to yourself. When you give back to yourself, you are rebuilding your life force and reinventing the world that you see around you with inspiration, passion and motivation. Stop crumbling in the agony of defeat and begin living in the moment of vitality!
Don’t forget to check out my upcoming 5-Week Program on the topic of “Forgivenesss.” During those 5 weeks, we will be tackling many of the thoughts, beliefs and inner turmoil that we often experience while we are feeling hurt, angry or simply blocked against any one or any thing that will helps us heal and flow. I invite you to take a look at the site that will go into greater detail this 5-Week Program on Forgiveness. www.ItIsAnInsideJob.com
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, Intuition Girl
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan — Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
Forgiveness: Expanding your Prospects
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Renowned Dutch botanist, Paul Boese once said, “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” Let’s reflect on that statement for just a moment. Imagine if every time Edison or Franklin had gotten negative results and they simply gave up. Nope, not going to do it … no, they did not – thankfully. Without their willingness to forgive themselves for their miscalculations and follies, we would not have much of the technology that we have today.
In order to expand our prospects and to reveal our true destinies, we have to look beyond our emotional hurts, beyond our misgivings, and beyond the pain that we have inflicted upon ourselves throughout the years. Life is a journey and a constant experiment. The more we experience life, the more we begin to grasp the solidity of the Universal flow of energy. This is where self-forgiveness enables us to truly identify with our authentic self and our higher potentiality. When Boese talked about forgiveness, he was quite right in his summation. We cannot change our past, but we can alter the course of our future. And the first way to do that is to offer forgiveness not only to those who have brought pain upon us, but in forgiving ourselves for the pain that we have inflicted upon ourselves. Holding onto extra emotional baggage simply weighs us down; delaying and impeding us from moving forward.
Onto what are you still clinging? Why do you continue to punish yourself with negative feelings of animosity, vengefulness, jealousy, regret, sorrow or resentment? Imagine a stream flowing gently along and right when it is supposed to reach a waterfall, there is a dam blocking the way. Suddenly, the stream backs up and begins to flood the banks. That is what happens when we do not forgive ourselves. We build an emotional dam that does not allow us to move freely and in forward motion. Before too long, we flood ourselves with raw emotions that take over our lives and our lifestyles. Our unforgiving emotions have begun to control our every thought, word and action. This stops us from broadening our future and our horizons.
From this moment on, I want you to free the dam of your emotions so you can expand your prospects. If a flower can open its petals and reveal its inner beauty, then you too, can free your mind and your heart to the inner beauty that you possess. Forgive yourself first so you can reap the opportunities that lie ahead of you now.
I am offering a 5-Week Program on the topic of “Forgivenesss.” During those 5 weeks, we will be tackling many of the thoughts, beliefs and inner turmoil that we often experience while we are feeling hurt, angry or simply blocked against any one or any thing that will helps us heal and flow. I invite you to take a look at the site that will go into greater detail this 5-Week Program on Forgiveness. www.ItIsAnInsideJob.com
Many blessings to you on your journey,
Joan Marie, Intuition Girl
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan — Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
Heal Yourself through Forgiveness
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Have you been stuck in a dead-end job or relationship and cannot seem to move forward in your professional or personal life? Nine times out of ten, you are holding onto old emotional wounds that are preventing you from making wise decisions about your life and the direction you need to take to create a more rewarding, purpose-filled life.
If we refuse to heal ourselves, how can we begin to help heal those around us and the environment in which we live? In order to release your emotional stress and mental baggage from the past, you must find the power and strength within to heal yourself and others.
Emotional healing is an inside job! You must forgive yourself from your past hurts, pains, neglect, abuse, guilt and shame, among other negative feelings so that you can reclaim the joy-filled life you deserve to be living.
What choices do you make for yourself each and every day? If you are choosing to hang on to your hurtful feelings, then you are not making the right choices for you or your wellbeing. In fact, you are excluding yourself from inner peace and happiness. From here on out, you must decide to forgive yourself and the people who have hurt you. Next, release all that bitterness and anger that you have been keeping inside you. Go ahead and take a deep breath. Release all the negativity that has been stopping you from leading a successful life.
Practice putting yourself in proper balance with your emotions each and every day. As you do, you are actively choosing to stop being the victim and are becoming the victor to all your life challenges.
Let me help you pave the way to your emotional healing by joining me on my 5-Week Program on Forgiveness beginning June 1, 2010 at http://www.ItIsAnInsideJob.com today!
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, Your Intuition Girl
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan — Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist.
What does Failing in Life mean to you?
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Losing is a part of everyday life. You can get beat and you will be recognized for doing your best but that is all part of life’s true gifts when we take them as lessons and learn from them. I honestly believe that we truly only can fail in life only when we quit. If we never quit then we never fail. What a simple approach — think about it.
Half the struggles in life are about learning how to choose your battles wisely and to remain vigilant and persistent in doing so. The winning strategy here is not to “win the proverbial war,” but to win at what you do best and not give up in the act. Margaret Thatcher once said that you may have to fight the battle more than once to win it, and that is not only a challenge to you, but a fact in life. I cannot begin to imagine how many wonderful feats would not have been accomplished had it not been for the tenacity and determination of those talented individuals who created some of the lackluster tools that we now take for granted. Alexander Graham Bell could never have fathomed the routine use of his telephone, nor could he have ever foreseen the branches it would take in its expansion toward wireless communications. But it was his struggle to create something new and innovative that led to what we have today. It did not happen overnight, and it was not an easy feat – but his vigilance and persistence paid off in the end.
Another fine example of overcoming failures to live a purpose-filled life was a teacher by the name of Anne Sullivan. Had Sullivan ever conceded to her misgivings of trying to teach a deaf and blind girl, there never would have been such an inspirational story of going against all odds to do the seemingly impossible…but she did. Sullivan was convinced to use persistence and willpower to help develop one of the fondest motivational and heart-touching stories of all time: Helen Keller; who subsequently went on to writing and publishing 12 books, among pursuing several other lifeworks.
Of course there are many other success stories throughout the course of history. I would not have enough days in a lifetime to tell you about those who went on to overcome failures to succeed at what they did best.
What does failing in life mean to you? Have you given up on trying to succeed or have you lost one battle to fight yet another one? We live to fight another day and that is the importance of vitality. If we no longer have reason to rise above the human condition and circumstance, then we have not begun to live at all. My challenge to you is to look within yourself to discover your hidden talents so that you too, can manifest prosperity, happiness and a purpose-filled life. Failure is not a curse word, but a blessing in disguise. It is through failure that we learn to humble ourselves. It is through failure that we learn what not to do and what precisely it is we need to do in order to succeed. Failure is in virtue, the defining thread of life that enables us to see our shortcomings and discover our potentiality.
If you believe that you will fail, surely that will be the case. But the same holds true for those who believe that they will succeed. When you plant the seed of fortune in your mind and spirit, you begin to manifest blessings that have long awaited you. As we grow, we learn from our mistakes. In Walt Disney’s “The Lion King,” Rafiki swats Simba on the head with a stick. He then says to the young lion cub that the past can hurt, but that he can either run from it or learn from it. In order to conquer your future, you must first forgive yourself and release your past. Learn from your failures and move forward with your head held high and with persistence and determination in your heart. You too, can manifest a prosperous and joy-filled life once you understand that past failures are not for you to carry, but from which to learn and to discover the true essence of you and who you intend to be.
There are no real “failures” in life, after all – only valuable lessons to be learned. How we perceive our disappointments is half the work. How we react to them is the harder part of the lesson. Do you continue to struggle in your day to day routines because of past failures? It is time for you to let go of those old wounds and hurts. It is time for you to re-evaluate the choices that you have made so that you can make the right choices from this moment forward. You can no longer fail in life because as long as you never quit, you are destined for success…and that, my friends, you can take to the bank.
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, Your Intuition Girl
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan — Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist. Joan Marie’s next 5-Week program on The Power of Forgiveness, the gift of Healing will start June 1, 2010—to learn more about it go to www.joanmariewhelan.com.
Peel away the layers to forgiveness
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Has someone ever hurt or harmed you so deeply that you have put up a wall to keep others out of your life? That same wall prevents opportunities from coming into your life. In my upcoming teleclass program, I’m going to intuitively guide you on a healing journey within to reveal the abundant you…the you, who is willing to heal, move on, shine and receive the blessings that life has to offer.
I can help you along your path to forgiveness and healing – that’s my job. Your job is to participate and be ready to peel away the layers of anger, guilt, shame, resentment and sorrow – allow me to show you the useful way to do so in my upcoming teleclass series. As a bonus, I’m chipping in a free teleclass that will provide you more details on the program as well as a night of personal enlightenment.
Go to www.itisaninsidejob.com to learn more and register
Until we talk on the call, blessings on your life journey
Joan Marie
