Needing relationship advice
Posted by Intuition Girl
QUESTION # 1
Joan Marie,
I can honestly answer the question that if I had money I would not stay in my marriage. Neither my husband nor I are happy but I think we stay because we have children (and me because it’s more financially secure). We had an argument yesterday and he mentioned that we both messed up by getting married to each other because I’m not the one for him and he’s not the one for me. I feel the same way. I can even look back and see that there were flashing stop signs all over the place in the beginning and throughout our relationship before we even got married. The classic case of “I wish I knew then what I know now”.
I was confiding in an older lady friend (someone like a mother figure) who put it pretty bluntly that I might as well just stay because no one else out there is going to want me because I have three children. She says that’s too much baggage and it’s easier to have two incomes than just one. I’m scared to stay and let my life pass me by and I’m scared to leave and face the unknown and struggle with financial issues. I feel trapped.
Any advice?
Thank you.
Elizabeth
ANSWER:
Dear Elizabeth:
I thought your question was brilliant! My mom is going to answer this one because she, too, experienced a marriage that didn’t work. I, therefore, believe that she is the right person to address your concerns.
Dear Elizabeth – When I read your question, I completely understood the tug in your heart and the unhappiness that you are experiencing. Both you and your husband have agreed that your marriage is not working. As I see it, you have two choices:
One to take measures to work it out, such as counseling, which also requires a change in both of your attitudes and behavior as well as in changing the environment in your home or separation; whether that results in divorce or not. If both of you are in agreement that this union should have never taken place and both of you want to see a change, then both of you will need to sit down – communicate in a civil tone and mannerism and work on your alternatives.
My dear friend, a choice based on fear cannot be one of your decisions. If you are only willing to stay in this relationship because of a strong sense of security, then you will never be happy or feel content.
I divorced my first husband with four young children ages 2-7 and at the time, I hadn’t worked during those seven years. I started a new career with an investment from a friend of $500.00, which I paid back, and the rest is history.
It would be foolish and false for me to say that this is going to be easy because it is not. I made a decision, and from that day forward I knew that I must take responsibility for the outcome for my four children and myself. My husband did not support us financially even though he did move out of the house. I picked myself up by the bootstraps, so to speak, and for the next eight years I worked very long hours both on the job and as a Mom. We became a family of five and all of my free time was spent nurturing and supporting my children. It was only after eight years when I was stable and secure in my own right that I was able to meet and spend time with others. I did re-marry and my four children benefited from that union.
You have a lot of thinking to do. This is not an easy decision. There are many factors that need to be examined by you and I encourage you to be realistic. It is my personal opinion that a mother‘s primary responsibility is to her children, then to her spouse. I took that responsibility very seriously and I never wavered from it. Yes, it was hard. Yes it was exhausting and no, I had no family support. Whatever choices you and your husband make, please remember that you still can be a family with your three children and they can still feel safe and secure even if you do not always experience those same thoughts.
Seek guidance from God and the angels. They will most definitely help you on your journey if you ask them. Ask for courage, strength and guidance. Nothing is impossible if you truly believe.
Many blessings to you,
Joan Marie Ambrose, the MOM
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How your Life will look
Posted by Intuition Girl
…When you follow your inner compass.
How many times have you went camping or perhaps on a long-distance car trip? Would you go without a compass or a map to locate your way through the rough terrain? That’s obvious: you wouldn’t. Most folks are conscious about their travel plans and want to make certain that they know where they are going and how to get from point A to point B. Now, imagine if you just had an inner compass to guide you along your way. Surprisingly, you do. But, in most cases, you either didn’t realize you had one, and if you knew you had one, you might not use it to your best advantage.
Today I am going to tell you how to tap into your inner compass, and how to make your inner compass useful to you. First, I want you to think about the core of your very being. What drives you, what compels you to act or do the things you do? Is it your train of thought? Is it a dream you have? No. In fact, your inner compass is that gut feeling, that raw instinct that tells you what you need to do and how to do it when the chips are stacked against you. It’s that inner drive, your intuition that gives you the hints and tips to sustain the life you are living, and the innate resourcefulness to mold the life you truly want to lead.
From this day forward I want you remember the word LEAP: Live Effectively and Prosperous. Every time you are countered with a decision in your life or when a challenge presents itself to you, I want you to LEAP. When you engrain this simple four-letter word into your mind and into your core being, you are metaphorically taking a LEAP forward in your life. You are actively making the choice to use your inner compass to lead you in a forward motion.
In life, you are often thrown monkey wrenches and twists and turns that you did not anticipate. That is where your inner compass and your “LEAP” mode come into play. Instead of being the forever damsel in distress or the prisoner to your own invisible bars, you are making your inner compass available and useful to you. What is your gut feeling telling you? Shhh…listen. Nine times out of ten, it is giving you the necessary directions to complete your goals; complete your journey.
Use your inner compass wisely. Use it daily. And never forget to LEAP. The end result of how your life will look is only determined by your mind’s eye and how you imagine it to be. The possibilities are endless.
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, your Intuition Girl
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How your Life will Look
By Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her Lifestyle Makeover Programs with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. Her Manifestation Method Program and Lifestyle Makeover Programs are designed to help people change their lives. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to:www.joanmariethegift.com
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan – Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
Trusting Yourself means trusting your Inner Compass
Posted by Intuition Girl
Can you truly trust yourself to make all the right choices for your life? If you even hesitated slightly on that answer, your inner compass might not be in sync with your potentiality. Ideally, you want to gain and maintain perfect balance with your intuition so that you can attract and achieve overall health, wealth and prosperity in all areas of your lifestyle.
Understanding and making wise decisions is a choice you proactively make in alignment with your inner compass. In doing so, you are automatically setting yourself up for success. Ultimately, that is what anyone wants in life: to be a success. Successful in love, professionally successful, successful in health…the list goes on and on. What has been stopping you from owning your success?
To guide your journey in life, you must be willing to become the leader of your life. Remember in elementary school when the teacher made you the line leader? Wasn’t that a great feeling? All of a sudden you get to control how fast or slow your line goes. Not only that, you got to choose what direction the line was going to go and where it was going to wind up. Now, imagine if you had that control over your own life… Well, actually you do. Maybe you just have not realized that yet…or perhaps you have not been letting your intuition, your inner compass, give you the directional aides to help move you in the appropriate path.
It is really not all that difficult to fine-tune your inner guidance. In fact, the more you facilitate it, the sharper and brighter it becomes. And as you extract your intuition to meet your daily needs, you find that you are simultaneously and harmoniously putting balance where it belongs: in tune with Universal flow of energy.
What have you done to create the change you want to see in your life? Let’s get started on all your hopes and dreams in this new decade. It is never too late to become the leader of your life and it is never too late to refine your inner compass to get you there!
Allow me, Joan Marie, to help guide you on your journey to self discovery and help move you in rhythm with your inner compass today! I am offering a new 5-Month Interactive Program on Following your Inner Compass starting in February. I invite you to learn more about it and see if it is a perfect fit for you.
Until we speak again,
I am, Joan Marie, your Intuition Girl
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Trusting yourself means trusting your Inner Compass
By Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her Lifestyle Makeover Programs with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. Her Manifestation Method Program and Lifestyle Makeover Programs are designed to help people change their lives. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to:www.joanmariethegift.com
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan – Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
Holding on and Letting go
Posted by Intuition Girl
Throughout my tenure as an intuitive life coach, I have encountered numerous clients who have difficulties letting go of the heavy baggage that tends to hinder their progress; and more importantly, their overall happiness in life. Sometimes, it is easier to hold onto what we are used to experiencing in our lives. We grow complacent in believing that the emotions we are lugging around with us…bitterness, regret, anger, resentment, fear… are a natural aspect of our living. We begin to think that without these emotions, we would not be who we are; therefore, we painstakingly latch onto these feelings to keep our spirit fired up. That is the misconception, however. As long as we are holding onto these emotions (that do not serve our purpose), we are extinguishing our proverbial fire within our spirits. We are unintentionally draining our life-force and creating a black hole instead of a bright, shining flame.
You need a bright flame to attract all the positive things you want in life, and the only way to reignite that fire in your spirit, is to clear the space from all the empty and negative feelings that have become permanent place-holders in your life. When you think about it, do you really need to continue feeling angry or fearful? What purpose is it serving? Besides keeping you angry or scared, what are you personally getting out of these feelings? Do they improve your day-to-day life? Do they make you feel empowered? No. Each day that you hold onto these unforgiving emotions, is yet another day that you are stripping your own power away from you. In fact, you are giving away your personal empowerment to these feelings every time you succumb to them. It’s not worth it. Believe me — in the long run, you are better off forgiving yourself and letting go of all the past baggage you’ve been harboring in your life.
What’s in a word? Let’s begin with the word, “forgiveness“. To many, it means forgiving others for past mistakes or hurts. In truth, forgiveness begins with you. One cannot forgive another until he has forgiven himself first. It takes genuine effort and a big dose of humility to forgive others, but it takes an even stronger individual to look into the mirror and say: “I forgive you. I forgive you for all the anger you have had in your life. I forgive you for all the emptiness you have felt. I forgive you for all the regrets that you have had. I forgive you for not loving yourself enough.” That is a lot to say to yourself, but perhaps you have just one or two things you need to say to clear the air. A lot of times, the simple act of forgiving yourself aloud gives you the opening to releasing the emotional baggage in your life. Breathe. It’s okay.
Once you have opened the door to positivity and potentiality in your life by letting go of past hurts and regrets, your internal flame that ignites your spirit with the Universal flow of energy will begin to shine brighter and stronger. So much so, that suddenly you begin to feel alive again. You begin to feel empowered and ready to take on the world each and every day with a renewed sense of passion and vigor. Your spirit does not want to have its life-force extinguished. It is begging you to stop holding onto the animosity and sorrow… stop holding onto the disappointments and worry… stop holding onto the fear. It is time to let go …just let it go. Breathe. Look into the mirror right now and tell yourself: “I forgive you.” There. Doesn’t that already feel better? Can’t you begin to feel the emotional baggage from your past being released from your spirit? It has been a heavy load to carry, hasn’t it? Now is the time for you to let it go. Let it all go.
I would love to work with you and help you to clear the space for a new and improved you. Together, we can meet your life challenges with the right intuitive ingredients to create the success and happiness your heart desires. Drop me a line today and let me help you reignite your life force with the passion and greatness that you deserve!
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, Your Intuition Girl
This coming February, invest in yourself and give yourself the gift of a professional education to Follow your Inner Compass, a five-month interactive mastery program with Certified Master Intuitive, Joan Marie Whelan! If you feel that a program like this will serve you to advance your goals, please click on the following link and learn more about it: http://www.joanmariewhelan.com/innercompass/
I will also be offering a free teleclass on January 11, 2010 to discuss this forthcoming program. Register Here! I would love to meet with you!
Holding on and Letting Go
By Joan Marie Whelan
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Your Intuition is your Inner Compass
Posted by Intuition Girl
Have you ever taken a good look at a compass? It is typically round and is used as a directional guide so that you can distinguish which way is north, south, east or west. Without a compass, you could easily get lost in the elements.
Generally, you have an idea of where you have to go and memorization habitually lets you find your way to the store, to work, to the gas station, and even simple places like the bathroom or living room in your house. Your directional compass aids you in locating various spots all around you.
But you also have an internal compass that acts as your intuition; your inner steering wheel, which guides your conscious and sub-conscious moves in your life. How does it work, you ask? Similar to your memory compass, your intuitive compass compels you to act or react in certain situations. For instance, if an opportunity or challenge presents itself to you, your inner compass will guide you to respond in one way or another. If you have finely-tuned your intuition through meditation and other mind training, your inner compass is ultimately going to lead you in the appropriate direction. So, if a sudden job prospect opens up to you (among other potentialities) you will be both mentally and emotionally prepared to step up to the challenge; or in some cases, stay the course. How would you respond at this moment, for instance, if a friend knocked on your door and asked you if you’re ready to take on a better position at his company? Or, what if the object of your desires suddenly approaches you with a proposal of love? Are you ready to be responsible for what it is you truly want?
Let’s go a bit deeper…what if I told you that you may have been living an illusion? In truth, most of us have constructed an illusion to disguise our authentic self, our authentic being, the truth of who we are –after all, it is easier to put on a veil to cover up our bottled emotions, our fears, our sorrows and our regrets, among others. But as you begin to unlock your hidden power of your inner compass, you begin to enable your intuition to lay the groundwork for you so that you can set the foundation for your authentic success.
Think of it this way: if you can train your mind to memorize the places that you visit day in and day out without fail, imagine how well you can set the coordinates for your inner compass to generate and attract love, happiness, health, wealth and prosperity! Now is the perfect time for you to set your inner compass to the field that you can magnify the most: your success.
This coming February, invest in yourself and give yourself the gift of a professional education to Follow your Inner Compass, a five-month interactive mastery program with Certified Master Intuitive, Joan Marie Whelan! If you feel that a program like this will serve you to advance your goals, please click on the following link and learn more about it: http://www.joanmariewhelan.com/innercompass/
I will also be offering a free teleclass on January 11, 2010 to discuss this forthcoming program. Register Here! I would love to meet with you!
Your Intuition is your Inner Compass
By Joan Marie Whelan
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Learn more about Psychic Medium Joan Marie Whelan – Intuition Counselor and Intuition Coaching Specialist
