Forgiveness: Expanding your Prospects
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Renowned Dutch botanist, Paul Boese once said, “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” Let’s reflect on that statement for just a moment. Imagine if every time Edison or Franklin had gotten negative results and they simply gave up. Nope, not going to do it … no, they did not – thankfully. Without their willingness to forgive themselves for their miscalculations and follies, we would not have much of the technology that we have today.
In order to expand our prospects and to reveal our true destinies, we have to look beyond our emotional hurts, beyond our misgivings, and beyond the pain that we have inflicted upon ourselves throughout the years. Life is a journey and a constant experiment. The more we experience life, the more we begin to grasp the solidity of the Universal flow of energy. This is where self-forgiveness enables us to truly identify with our authentic self and our higher potentiality. When Boese talked about forgiveness, he was quite right in his summation. We cannot change our past, but we can alter the course of our future. And the first way to do that is to offer forgiveness not only to those who have brought pain upon us, but in forgiving ourselves for the pain that we have inflicted upon ourselves. Holding onto extra emotional baggage simply weighs us down; delaying and impeding us from moving forward.
Onto what are you still clinging? Why do you continue to punish yourself with negative feelings of animosity, vengefulness, jealousy, regret, sorrow or resentment? Imagine a stream flowing gently along and right when it is supposed to reach a waterfall, there is a dam blocking the way. Suddenly, the stream backs up and begins to flood the banks. That is what happens when we do not forgive ourselves. We build an emotional dam that does not allow us to move freely and in forward motion. Before too long, we flood ourselves with raw emotions that take over our lives and our lifestyles. Our unforgiving emotions have begun to control our every thought, word and action. This stops us from broadening our future and our horizons.
From this moment on, I want you to free the dam of your emotions so you can expand your prospects. If a flower can open its petals and reveal its inner beauty, then you too, can free your mind and your heart to the inner beauty that you possess. Forgive yourself first so you can reap the opportunities that lie ahead of you now.
I am offering a 5-Week Program on the topic of “Forgivenesss.” During those 5 weeks, we will be tackling many of the thoughts, beliefs and inner turmoil that we often experience while we are feeling hurt, angry or simply blocked against any one or any thing that will helps us heal and flow. I invite you to take a look at the site that will go into greater detail this 5-Week Program on Forgiveness. www.ItIsAnInsideJob.com
Many blessings to you on your journey,
Joan Marie, Intuition Girl
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Inspirational Message: Your Inner Compass
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An inspirational message is sent to give you a deeper insight into life’s purpose as it also instills some meaning and awareness. Allow this Monday Morning Message sent at the beginning of the week to help set the pace for the next six days in a way that inspires and invites reflection.
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Heal Yourself through Forgiveness
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Have you been stuck in a dead-end job or relationship and cannot seem to move forward in your professional or personal life? Nine times out of ten, you are holding onto old emotional wounds that are preventing you from making wise decisions about your life and the direction you need to take to create a more rewarding, purpose-filled life.
If we refuse to heal ourselves, how can we begin to help heal those around us and the environment in which we live? In order to release your emotional stress and mental baggage from the past, you must find the power and strength within to heal yourself and others.
Emotional healing is an inside job! You must forgive yourself from your past hurts, pains, neglect, abuse, guilt and shame, among other negative feelings so that you can reclaim the joy-filled life you deserve to be living.
What choices do you make for yourself each and every day? If you are choosing to hang on to your hurtful feelings, then you are not making the right choices for you or your wellbeing. In fact, you are excluding yourself from inner peace and happiness. From here on out, you must decide to forgive yourself and the people who have hurt you. Next, release all that bitterness and anger that you have been keeping inside you. Go ahead and take a deep breath. Release all the negativity that has been stopping you from leading a successful life.
Practice putting yourself in proper balance with your emotions each and every day. As you do, you are actively choosing to stop being the victim and are becoming the victor to all your life challenges.
Let me help you pave the way to your emotional healing by joining me on my 5-Week Program on Forgiveness beginning June 1, 2010 at http://www.ItIsAnInsideJob.com today!
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, Your Intuition Girl
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan — Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist.
Inspirational Message: The Power of Forgiveness
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Straight Talk with Joan Marie: Conflict Resolution in Relationships
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Question # 1
Dear Joan Marie:
My husband is ALWAYS mad at me. It seems that I am the blame for everything wrong in his life and in our relationship. If I submit, it’s never enough and if I don’t, I never doing anything for him (talk about a catch 22). 
According to him, I run around for everyone else and do nothing for him. We’ve been together for 13 years and married going on 6. Our relationship has always been rocky and we’ve gone to marriage counseling and I even went to individual counseling to work on my personal baggage but it seems as if even when things change they stay the same.
I am NOT perfect by far, but I have done a lot of compromising to accommodate his complaints, but even that goes unnoticed. Every time I change something about myself he has a new complaint about me.
There are things that I believe in and since he doesn’t he calls them bull. For example, I used to light candles and pray for people, he called it black magic, so I stopped. I still pray for people but now I don’t use candles.
The whole situation is getting to the point of “why bother”. I’ve changed, compromised, communicated and it’s as if I’m beating a dead horse. Sometimes I feel like what he really needs in a wife/partner is a robot (someone who can be programmed to accommodate his needs only and have none of their own).
Thanks for the shoulder!
EH
ANSWER:
Dear EH:
Recently, when I was on the radio in NYC I spoke with a woman who was very dissatisfied in her marriage. My suggestion was to write down a list of things she wanted her husband to say to her on a consistent basis and then share that list with him. Likewise, he was to do the same thing. The purpose of this exercise is to communicate your feelings, wants and needs with each other in a healthy manner.
Communication is the key ingredient here. From your comments, it sounds like you and your husband are not even on the same page! My wish is for you to sit down with him and share what it is you wish to experience in your marriage and what it is you are looking for.
He just might not be capable of giving you what you need. From what you said, it appears that he is a very unhappy person and quite possibly his anger and unpleasantness has nothing to do with you. Unfortunately, you are the one who is most visible to him so you get the brunt of his pain. It is not your job to change him. That is something he must do for himself.
You can only continue to work on you so that you will heal and grow. If he is not willing to look at his own “baggage” and his own need to heal and grow there is nothing you can do about it or your relationship. There is going to come a time when you will need to decide if you can continue to life with these issues because if he is not willing to work with you and the benefit of your relationship, you will need to look at why are you allowing yourself to be in a unhealthy situation.
Take your power back and make decisions that will benefit you. It is time you put you first. Balance and harmony is what we all seek.
Many Blessings,
Joan Marie the gift
