Straight Talk with Joan Marie: Creating Space for Loving Relationships
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Question 1:
Dear Joan Marie:
I don’t know where to start; I am with a good man and I love him—the thing is, that we also live with his family, and never have any space or time for us and it is getting to me. I have tried to talk to him but he will not move and get us our own place to live. I have also tried to think of it as a good thing and tried to do and say all the right things but I don’t feel like it is my home. I feel like a prisoner, I stay in my room and I don’t eat all day until he comes home or I go to work and eat there. Maybe you could give me some words of wisdom to get me through this mess.
From,
Cynthia
Answer:
Dear Cynthia:
I understand that you are in a tough situation right now. My feeling is you and your partner need to sit down and make this a win/win for the both of you. Honest and sincere communication is one of the fundamental traits for a healthy and lasting relationship. It is important that you feel comfortable and accepted in your home environment and if you are both equally in love and wanting to make your relationship work, it will take both of you to commit to a mutual resolution.
I guess my first thought is to work on finding a solution that will satisfy both of you. If this living arrangement is temporary because he is working on saving money for your future home and life together, then you both need to set a time line and work towards that goal. For any relationship to last requires compromise and open communication; however, if he plans to live indefinitely with his family because he can’t see himself separated from them, you need to know that truth so you can find a solution that will best serve you, your heart and your health.
Before you moved into his families home, some of these discussions and points needed to be resolved. But since you are already knee deep into an environment that intimidates and stifles you, you my friend are the one who needs to make wise decisions. Either you accept the situation or change it. The power is within you. This is a great opportunity for you to step up and be a leader over your life. If this is your home too than you can make the best of it and enjoy your surroundings. No one is asking you to hide in your room. Some hard choices will need to be made by you. It definitely takes courage and strength on your part but when you decide to take charge of this situation and equally implement change with your partner, you will feel much better.
Tapping into the Power of Your Source
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Question 1
How do I tap into the power of my Source so I can, as you say, dance my way through life? I have been fighting most of my life but I do not want to fight any longer? I guess I am looking for peace in my life? If you can answer this question, I would be most grateful.
Samuel J.
ANSWER:
Hi Samuel:
The greatest statement you said is “I am looking for peace in my life”. The truth is you have peace inside of you; all of us do. All we have to do is remember how to tap into that gift. So often we ignore peace by focusing on the things that are not working or what we do not have. Many times as a default we tap into our confusion, or our fear or panic and we forget what is really inside of us.
In order to tap into your Source you must be able to see the light within you. I often call it the sunlight. Get clear on what it is you are fighting for; in order to know peace you must surrender to where you are, and stop the fight or battle within.
The Source inside of you is a well of Eternal Love and Peace waiting for you to drink from its plenty. What all of you need to do is sit in the sunlight with your heart open to receive the peace you are longing for. If you do this exercise often, you will feel the difference.
Many Blessings,
Joan Marie, the Gift – Intuition Girl
Honoring your Feelings through Trust
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Question 2
I love my partner but I do not trust him. I feel as though he is not being honest with me. 
I do not think he is deliberately trying to do that…but nonetheless, that is the end result and that is what I am feeling. I hope I am making sense here. If you have any guidance, I would greatly appreciate it.
Thank you.
Sierra J.
Answer 2
Dear Sierra:
I believe I understand what you are saying. I often say that it is important to trust what you are feeling. Our feelings are like a radar system that if you understand them correctly they can steer you in the right direction. The key for you is to heal what emotions are coming up for you. The only person you can control is yourself, so the point to make is how do you want to deal with this and other situations. If you are feeling betrayed, what outcome do you choose so you will feel honored and respected.
I also suggest that you sit down with your partner and have an open and honest communication with him. You need to get really clear with yourself and what it is you do not trust in your relationship and talk with him about it. Is he covering up something so as not to worry you? What are the reasons? This is also a great time for you to look deeper at this relationship and your mutual commitment with each other so that you understand what is working and what is not. You both need to decide to come together and work through this situation before something happens
I also strongly suggest that during this time you take care of you—your emotions, mental attitude and physical wellbeing. Work on gaining clarity of what is coming up for you and why you are in this situation. This is a great lesson for you in becoming more honest with yourself and your life. As you make a deeper commitment to you, you will also be honoring your feelings.
Many Blessings,
Joan Marie, the Gift – Intuition Girl
Who do You Love?
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In his popular hit song, Bo Diddley asks the question, “Who do you love?” Today, I’m going to ask you the same question: Who do “YOU” love? Now I’m going to give you the right answer: “You.” You must love yourself first to achieve inner peace and happiness in your life. Don’t think it’s selfish to love yourself, because you are an essential part of YOU. 
To manifest wealth and success in your life, you must prepare your path for greatness by learning to accept and love every part of you. You do this by training your mind and heart to work in unison with your spirit body. The fastest way to transform your life into one that is personally and professionally rewarding is to start a daily meditation ritual, which will help to rest your mind, calm your nerves, and inspire your soul. Some of my favorite meditation methods include the use of relaxation CDs, being in nature, deep-breathing techniques, and journaling. Another great tool is the Manifestation Method – this personal success program is designed to help you manifest your heart’s desires.
Which meditation tool is right for you? That depends on your individual personality. For some, deep breathing techniques may work exceptionally well. Others find that a more guided program like the Manifestation Method, might work more efficiently.
The primary reason for meditation is to teach you how to love and accept yourself for whom you are, in this moment, at this time. It’s also a great forgiveness tool. Too many of us get caught up in overwhelming feelings of guilt and sorrow. When we meditate, it helps us to gain clarity; and improves our ability to wade past the murky waters that distort our views.
Once you are able to clear the rubbish from your mind, you are better mentally and emotionally prepared to rise above circumstance, and enjoy the nature that is you. This is what being in love with yourself is all about – it’s about being comfortable in your own skin. I want you to ask yourself, “Who do YOU love?” And when you do, I want you to acknowledge that it’s” YOU” who matters; and “YOU”, who hold the key to your fortune in life. You are, after all, a spiritual being capable of greatness in every way. Go ahead – love yourself today.
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, Intuition Girl
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Who do you Love?
By Joan Marie Whelan
About the Author: Joan Marie Whelan, an internationally known intuitive specialist, business consultant, medium, and coach travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and the Manifestation Method with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. For more info, please go to: www.joanmariewhelan.com
Moving forward in life with purpose and meaning
Posted by Intuition Girl
Question 1
How do I honor who I am and follow my life’s purpose? I am a 60 year old woman who has a job but I have no security so how do I move forward with my life, its purpose and meaning?
I guess I am hoping to discover my soul’s purpose and my future while I am on this planet. I am not sure how to begin. If you can give me some insight I would be most grateful.
Heather W.
Answer 1
Dear Heather:
It is about your soul discovery. I think you are too focused on your Ego Mind, which is well intentioned however, out of ignorance it is focusing on fear and worry which is actually tripping you up and preventing you from bringing flow into your life. To unblock it means that you have to do your work, which does take conscious intention, willingness and commitment. We all have the opportunity to choose feeling blocked or feeling the flow. Which are you choosing? Please take a look at yourself and see what frequency you are marching too—your self-observation will be most helpful.
You have powerful thoughts and you are the solution, so I suggest that you move away from fear or insecurity. You can flow but it is about the frequency that you are identifying with. So again I emphasize, you must begin to decide how you want to live and where you want to put your focus. What you dwell on all the time will materialize your outcome.
One of your life lessons is for you to learn and understand why you have needed to be in the place you are in. This is not a punishment. It is a wake-up call. Also, allow yourself now more than ever to create clarity on what you want your life to look like. What is it you want to bring into your life? I have said it before and I will say it again, I wrote my book: “Soul Discovery to help people like you. If you sincerely want to discover the answers that you are seeking, you will reach out for the tools that will guide your journey.
Many Blessings,
Joan Marie the gift intuition girl
