Looking in all the Wrong Places: 5 Personality Types in Relationships
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True love is sometimes difficult to define and can be even more difficult to discover in our lives. But it is when we are not so desperately searching for it, that it finds us. The difference here is that when love “finds” you, it is simply because you have opened yourself up to the possibility of a relationship.
What do you want out of a love relationship? Is it romance, a safe environment, a trusting friendship, security or a soul-mate? You say you want it all? You can have a lasting and true relationship if you stop looking in all the wrong places and open your mind, body and spirit to the potential that exists around you:
1. The “needy” relationship – if you are drawing “needy” people in your life it is often because you come across as strong and dependable but in truth, you are needy yourself and are like a magnet drawing that energy to you. Strong and dependable are wonderful attributes to have. But in order to attract equally strong personalities in your life, you have to go where those prospects exist. If you are frequenting the bar scene, you might be limiting your potential. Try attending arts and crafts shows, musical events, community seminars, plays, and other educational and enlightening venues. You may just bump into your future soul mate.
2. The “fast and furious” relationship—if you find yourself in these types of partnerships, you will notice that you might mesh well on the onset but then things turn sour quickly. It becomes a relationship of anxious gratification and constant struggle. You might have an exciting love life, but the dialog is hot and tempered. You transcend these types of relationships by a deeper look at your relationship and allow your love to be nurtured slowly and carefully. Remember, only fools rush in. Don’t do it!
3. The “weighted” relationship – this is an interesting one. This is the relationship where you discover that your mate is carrying two tons of baggage in his/her life. This person traps you—and the next thing you know, you are battling their inner demons and you’re weighted down along with your partner. The truth is that we all carry around a little more emotional baggage than we should. When we learn to let go of it, we begin attracting like-minded, like-spirited people in our lives, which is ultimately what we desire.
4. The “rope-a-dope” relationship – what? Yes, there are those individuals who just want to have a short fling and are not seriously interested in a long-term relationship. You can easily detect these potential partners by their often aloof conversations and avoidance issues. That personality may offer you his/her heart on their sleeve, but he/she will not take you home to have dinner with you and he/she won’t introduce you to their friends. It is perfectly natural to wait a while before bringing your significant other to family reunions and the like, but be careful if you begin noticing signs of secrecy or evasion.
5. The “OCD” relationship – Obsessive Compulsive Disorder– You think you have found the perfect partner. He wants to do everything for you. In fact, he does everything for you. Then you begin to realize that you no longer can do anything for or by yourself. These individuals, though well intentioned, can quickly put a cramp in your lifestyle and begin to control every aspect in your life. The smartest step anyone should take when entering a love relationship is to lay down some ground rules. That does not mean one should be brash and demanding, but for all sanity purposes, be sure to let your potential partner know how you feel and that there are some things in your routine that you would like to keep your own. Having your personal sacred space is often a healthy way to maintain an endearing relationship. Remember, to treat yourself and everyone else with love, when you do, everything else falls into place. Aim for a common ground. The care with which you approach any relationship will be reflected in your attitude and behavior.
Overall, it is vital that you keep your wits about you and instead of jumping into a relationship heart-first, take it slow and easy. To build a lasting foundation built on trust, love and understanding, you must first fall in love with yourself and then the rest will follow. It is a constant process of tuning into your gut-feelings, your intuitive abilities. Allow your intuition to guide your way. You will be glad you did.
Joan Marie
Falling in Love all over again
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I am often asked, “How do I make my partner love me again?” First and foremost, you cannot “make” anyone love you. It is up to that individual whether or not s/he is 
going to “love” you. Remember too, that love in a relationship is not lost; more commonly, it is that other areas in the relationship have grown and developed to include additional family members, work projects, social commitments and the like. If you are truly in love with one another, the emotional attachment can frequently be strained because life, in general, expands. We become distant from each other as we are pulled by different directions and other people in our lives. The more mature we become, the more self-evolved we become as well. It is a process in life.
To “recapture” love in a relationship, you must get back to the roots of who you are, and what it was that captivated you about your significant other. It is not always the “s/he doesn’t love me anymore” scenario; quite contrary, if you are the seeker in the relationship, then perhaps it is you who must learn to come to terms with your own successes, failures, ambitions and fears.
Getting back to the basics means to take a timeout for yourself and your loved one to rediscover the uniqueness of your individualities, to explore the past, present and future together; to collectively commit to understanding one another, to redesign your dreams together; and to enjoy each other not the way you were, but in the new way that you are today. Think about grapes on a vine. The longer they hang in the warm sun, the sweeter they become with age. That is how relationships work. Perhaps you have differing work schedules, maybe you are both recently retired, or life as a whole has been throwing some monkey wrenches your way; the more you learn to co-create and cooperate with one another, the greater chances you will survive and thrive in your relationship.
9 Tips for Falling in Love All Over Again
Modern “norms” may not coincide with the life you have shared in your relationship. Perhaps spicing your relationship with some of these modern “norms” (and many tried and true) could revitalize your love life:
1. Send an impromptu text message saying how much you love your significant other.
2. Schedule a fun date through Facebook.
3. Plant a herb garden (or just a watermelon patch if you like) with each other.
4. Plan and make an escape (a vacation) to somewhere you have never been.
5. Hold hands in public more often.
6. Schedule a movie night at the drive-in. (No, your living room does NOT count.)
7. Cook dinner together (lasagna is always fun!)
8. Tell each other DAILY one thing that you find attractive about him or her.
9. Use Twitter to “Tweet” a special code word to your significant other that only s/he will know what it means.
In the end, if you are HONESTLY trying to make your relationship work, you will find happiness and the love you have been seeking.
5 Must-Have Attitudes in Relationships
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In life, you will occasionally find that no matter where you are, with whom you are, or in whatever circumstance you may be, you may feel empty and dissatisfied with your current state of affairs. Perhaps you feel your job is no longer 
challenging or rewarding; or if you are in a long-standing relationship, you suddenly realize you have grown tired and bored with whom you have invested years of your life. Some of the most common mistakes some of you make is believing that others are there to “serve your purpose“. In relationships, it falls to each one of us to continually choose nonjudgmental perceptions and constructive interactions. Each and every day, you must focus on stronger and more sustainable relationships by carefully constructing building blocks of love and respect. Here are five must-have attitudes in relationships, which promise a sustainable and promising lifestyle:
1. Thinking of “50 Ways to Leave your Lover“? Maybe Paul Simon made a hit with that song, but perhaps it is time to start thinking of at least 25 ways to improve your relationship. Seriously. Get out a sheet of notebook paper and write down 50 ways to improve your relationship. Think of small ways you can contribute to bettering your circumstances and enriching each others’ lives. Remember, in love, it is a two-way street. It is not about how much your loved one can “serve your purpose“; rather, it is about how much each one of you can serve your own purposes to strengthen your bonds of love.
2. Seek and employ. Whether you are in a personal or professional relationship, you must have a “can-do” attitude. If your primary mission is to “search and destroy” aspects of a relationship – meaning you are more into “fault-finding” opposed to “positivism-finding”, then you are sabotaging your own relationship with something or someone. Instead, make a point to find five (5) positive elements or characteristics you admire about your career or your significant other. When you recalibrate your thinking in a more upbeat and hopeful thought process, you find that day-to-day living becomes more tolerable and joy-filled.
3. Stop assuming. It is vital in all relationships to toss out any preconceived ideas about a person or a situation. It is easy to fall into the “assumption trap” because you may have had a previous bad experience. Let it go. Do not offer feedback until you are absolutely clear of what an individual is telling you or doing. Just because something does not always seem clear to you, it does not mean the intention toward you is negative. Get the facts straight before you assume someone is out to get you. I have discovered that when I take the time to see the situation or experience from their point of view, I am better prepared to responds with wisdom and insight.
4. Compromise. Yes, in any and all relationships, it is imperative that you are willing to compromise. Throughout history, leaders – both great and small – have had to be the grownup in the room to find the middle ground. Compromising does not mean you have to sell your soul. What it does mean is that you are willing to cooperate on straightforward solutions to both complex and even simple issues. It may even mean “agreeing to disagree” and leaving it at that but I suggest without anger or malice.
5. Stop beating a dead horse. Have you ever been on the receiving end of one of these lashings? I am sure if you have, it has certainly made you feel frustrated or uncomfortable. So do not do it to someone else. If you have forgiven someone for past words or deeds, then you must also forgive yourself so you can release any anger or hurt feelings over that specific situation. If you have moved beyond a certain point in your life, why would you continue to rehash it? When you free yourself from past hurts, you find those associated feelings no longer have a stranglehold over your life. If you feel you cannot do it alone, let go and let God take the burden off your shoulders. Together, you will stop beating a dead horse and find the courage to move forward as an empowered being.
Inspirational Message – How are you showing up in life
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I encourage you to be honest with yourself and your team and those in your life, what is working for you and what are you putting your heart and soul into.
Inspirational Message – Taking small risks is healthy
Posted by Intuition Girl
How do you show up in Life? Be Honest with yourself and get in alignment to what you really want.
Put your heart and soul into your work , have fun with it and fall in love where you are.
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