Having a Responsible Voice
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What are you broadcasting? How is your voice being heard? What does your voice really want to say? While all of us may not be fully aware of it, we have the power inside us to share meaningful dialog and information; and we also have the power to be destructive in the same manner.
In a world that is filled with modern conveyances and one that is rapidly changing at the speed of light, we all too often forget the basis of communication; and that is sharing worthwhile information, thoughts and ideas stemming from the greatest value of all= love. For just one moment, I want you to think about that word: LOVE. 
Say it aloud to yourself. Do you hear and feel how easy it is to say when it rolls off your tongue? In fact, when you say it, it tends to calm the heart and mind.
–>What we say and how we respond in conversation and within our relationships can be either helpful or undermine our own growth — both personally and professionally.
How do you speak with others? How do you relate with others? When you are communicating with others, do you take their feelings and their circumstances into consideration? Do you assume that an individual knows what you are thinking? These are all questions you should ask yourself in your mind’s eye before entering into dialog. Many of us do this day in and day out (online and offline) in our social networks, in public, at the office and at home. We forget that the things that we say and do have consequences: one’s actions cause an equal reaction. If you berate or belittle someone with your words or deeds, otherwise meaningful communication is quickly depleted and nothing positive can come of that.
When we employ our conversation and our energies in a positive way by listening as well as conveying the messages we want people to hear and understand, we open the doorway to creativity and deeper levels of communication. In doing so, we begin to exchange positive energies that help us to grow as well as promoting growth in others. What are you doing today to responsibly expand the conversation in your world as well as enriching the lives of others? What seeds of inspiration can you sew today?
Let me know your thoughts…I would love to hear from you today!
I am always,
Your Intuition Girl, Joan Marie Whelan
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Having a Responsible Voice
By Joan Marie Whelan
About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her intuitive gifts with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. She is the author of: “Self- Discovery: The Nine Principles to Reveal Your Sacred Gifts” which is available through Amazon or our web site. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to: http://www.joanmariewhelan.com and click on Lifestyle Makeover Programs.
Looking in all the Wrong Places: 5 Personality Types in Relationships
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True love is sometimes difficult to define and can be even more difficult to discover in our lives. But it is when we are not so desperately searching for it, that it finds us. The difference here is that when love “finds” you, it is simply because you have opened yourself up to the possibility of a relationship.
What do you want out of a love relationship? Is it romance, a safe environment, a trusting friendship, security or a soul-mate? You say you want it all? You can have a lasting and true relationship if you stop looking in all the wrong places and open your mind, body and spirit to the potential that exists around you:
1. The “needy” relationship – if you are drawing “needy” people in your life it is often because you come across as strong and dependable but in truth, you are needy yourself and are like a magnet drawing that energy to you. Strong and dependable are wonderful attributes to have. But in order to attract equally strong personalities in your life, you have to go where those prospects exist. If you are frequenting the bar scene, you might be limiting your potential. Try attending arts and crafts shows, musical events, community seminars, plays, and other educational and enlightening venues. You may just bump into your future soul mate.
2. The “fast and furious” relationship—if you find yourself in these types of partnerships, you will notice that you might mesh well on the onset but then things turn sour quickly. It becomes a relationship of anxious gratification and constant struggle. You might have an exciting love life, but the dialog is hot and tempered. You transcend these types of relationships by a deeper look at your relationship and allow your love to be nurtured slowly and carefully. Remember, only fools rush in. Don’t do it!
3. The “weighted” relationship – this is an interesting one. This is the relationship where you discover that your mate is carrying two tons of baggage in his/her life. This person traps you…and the next thing you know, you are battling their inner demons and you’re weighted down along with your partner. The truth is that we all carry around a little more emotional baggage than we should. When we learn to let go of it, we begin attracting like-minded, like-spirited people in our lives which is ultimately what we desire.
4. The “rope-a-dope” relationship – what? Yes, there are those individuals who just want to have a short fling and are not seriously interested in a long-term relationship. You can easily detect these potential partners by their often aloof conversations and avoidance issues. That personality may offer you his/her heart on their sleeve, but he/she will not take you home to have dinner with you and he/she won’t introduce you to their friends. It is perfectly natural to wait a while before bringing your significant other to family reunions and the like, but be careful if you begin noticing signs of secrecy or evasion.
5. The “OCD” relationship – Obsessive Compulsive Disorder– You think you have found the perfect partner. He wants to do everything for you. In fact, he does everything for you. Then you begin to realize that you no longer can do anything for or by yourself. These individuals, though well intentioned, can quickly put a cramp in your lifestyle and begin to control every aspect in your life. The smartest step anyone should take when entering a love relationship is to lay down some ground rules. That does not mean one should be brash and demanding, but for all sanity purposes, be sure to let your potential partner know how you feel and that there are some things in your routine that you would like to keep your own. Having your personal sacred space is often a healthy way to maintain an endearing relationship. Remember, to treat yourself and everyone else with love, when you do, everything else falls into place. Aim for a common ground. The care with which you approach any relationship will be reflected in your attitude and behavior.
Overall, it is vital that you keep your wits about you and instead of jumping into a relationship heart-first, take it slow and easy. To build a lasting foundation built on trust, love and understanding, you must first fall in love with yourself and then the rest will follow. It is a constant process of tuning into your gut-feelings, your intuitive abilities. Allow your intuition to guide your way. You will be glad you did.
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, the Gift – Your Intuition Girl
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Looking in all the Wrong Places: 5 Personality Types in Relationships
By Joan Marie Whelan
About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her intuitive gifts with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. She is the author of: “Self- Discovery: The Nine Principles to Reveal Your Sacred Gifts” which is available through Amazon or our web site. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to: http://www.joanmariewhelan.com and click on Lifestyle Makeover Programs.
Are your Goals accompanied with a Consistent Labor of Love?
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What actions have you determined are necessities in your life to keep you on track? If you’re pining for the straight and narrow path to success, then you must know that in order to achieve the affluence you so desire, you must love yourself first and be consistent in every one of your efforts. A few questions you must ask yourself are:
1. What is it that I really want in life?
2. How am I going to acquire these wants?
3. How much passion am I going to put behind my goals?
4. What steps do I need to take in order to achieve these goals?
5. How much time am I willing to take to get the things I want?
After you’ve considered these questions, I want you to take out a pen and paper, your laptop keyboard, or whatever else you have at your disposal and begin to jot down ideas and thoughts resolving these questions.
Sometimes, we have to make small sacrifices to create a clear passage to the lives we want to lead. While we might like owning that high-maintenance SUV; the payments might be killing us financially. Or, we’ve put several years’ time into a work position only to stay in the same spot. Are you staying in a negative personal relationship because you’ve become accustomed to arguing? Have you seen the writing on the wall? That doesn’t mean you should allow your vehicle to get repossessed, that you should walk out of your relationship, or just outright quit your job because you’re not going anywhere. What it does mean is that you need to re-evaluate your state of affairs, and start using the tools that are available to you to make the best out of a lagging or negative situation. You are, after all, in control of your emotions and your actions. You cannot control the people around you. But you can control yourself…or better said, you can become the leader of your life.
That being said, you must determine the necessary actions and efforts to keep your life on track. For example, if you are in a “terrible job”, you need to ask yourself if it is in fact the job that is terrible, or is it the feelings that you associate with the job that give it the appearance of being terrible. When you figure that out, that’s when you can decide what path you need to take in order to acquire a better position…or perhaps, become an entrepreneur in your own field to create real value in your life. The same holds true in relationships – both personal and professional. Relationships, just like working positions, take time, sacrifice, effort, labor, love, and communication skills. What are you doing in your life to heighten your potential and efficacy in creating and sustaining healthy bonds? And this is also spot on with professional relationships – how do you view the work you do? Would you “hire you” again? Would you want “you” working for yourself? Think about it. Are you creating your own problems at work?
Beyond work and personal relationships, finances (or lack thereof) often take center stage on the emotional baggage train. Do any of these hypothetical statements apply to you?
“I can’t go to the gym because I can’t afford it.”
“I can’t take a vacation because I don’t have the money.”
“I’d love to take you to that restaurant, but it’s too expensive.”
“How I wish I could buy a house, but times are tough.”
“How can Jim (or fill in the blank) afford such a nice car?”
“I’d like to have children, but I can barely afford to pay my own bills.”
“I’m just not lucky like that other guy.”
More than likely, we’ve all encountered one or more of the above situations. It’s uncomfortable, too. Especially when someone asks you to accompany him (or her) and you begin concocting lame excuses as to why you can’t go. And envy is even worse. No matter how successful we become in life, someone, somewhere is going to have something bigger, better, and more expensive than you. That’s a fact. But, the good news is that you don’t have to “keep up with the Jones.” You just have to keep up with yourself – that’s it. Every action has an equal reaction. For instance, if you have made the active decision to pursue a higher position at work, what must you do to attain it? If you simply “want” the position, and do nothing to acquire it, then you will remain exactly where you are. Wanting something and doing something for that matter are two entirely different means to an end: one is inaction (indecision) and the other is action (decision). How is your supervisor going to know that you want a particular position? She can’t always read your mind. Likewise, if you’ve been performing “just enough” or “not enough” at work, do you really deserve the position?
Do you have what it takes? Yes! Almost every individual has the mental, physical, emotional, and psychological capacity to achieve their hearts’ desires; unfortunately, they don’t always do it because of indecision, inaction, and complacency. We get comfortable in all of our relationships, much like we do in our own tennis shoes. We tend to overlook the holes, the wear and tear, the rips, the shredded laces…because they feel good on our feet and we are accustomed to them. Eventually, our feet get soaked from the mud puddles that we sometimes have to walk through. Even track stars have to change shoes every now and then. Like it or not, we have to toss the old shoes and buy new ones that fit us, and that fit the paths on which we walk. Which path do you choose to walk upon? What sacrifices are you willing to make to create forward motion? What choices are you making for you today to promise a wealthy and happy tomorrow? What do you need to let go of so you can make room for the new experiences to come into your life?
If you’re still not sure how to stay focused and keep your life on track, but are willing to commit yourself to recharging your life and re-energizing your authentic self to become the person you want to be, then I invite you to participate in my upcoming Program so you can learn how to tap into your Intuitive Powers. During these 9 weeks, I’ll teach you how to be self-sustaining and self-empowering. And I’ll show you how to use your intuition and sheer determination to transform your lifestyle into the extraordinary one that I know you can achieve. Make the right choice for your future today!
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan – Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
5 Intuitive Points for Discovering the Ideal Match
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Ever wonder how some couples stay happily married for 50 years or how in love some couples appear to be? Call it chemistry, call it an instant click, or maybe…just maybe there was something intuitive about these relationships that made them work quite as well as they have.
There are a lot of singles in the world seeking that perfect mate…a soul mate for life. The trouble with searching for the perfect match is that perfection is far from easy to find…and sometimes perfection is not at all what we are seeking. Somewhere along the line, we have been tricked into believing that love creates sparks, whistles and bells… a large display of fireworks. And then when we finally discover love, it is not at all what it’s cracked up to be. Bummer.
There is some good news, however. When you use the following five intuitive points to discover your “perfect” life partner, you will find it’s a lot easier to open the lines of communication to get a relationship established.
1. 
The eyes have it! When you walk into a room (or any place for that matter) and you notice that your eyes meets another’s, do you shy away or do you feel drawn to that individual? The feelings that you evoke at that precise moment are your intuitive powers kicking into overdrive. How you feel and what you perceive from that individual are clues as to whether or not that certain somebody is a match for you. Let your conscience be your guide in this case. More often than not, it can provide you with the hint you need as to whether or not this person is a fit…at least by first observation.
2. 
Pay attention to hand signals! Now that you have made an eye-connection, observe the individual’s body language. Body language can intuitively tell you how the person might react to your advancement. Rather, if the individual may make a move toward you. If the person is open handed and relaxed, that individual may welcome dialog with you. If the individual is sitting with legs or arms crossed, s/he may not wish to engage in a conversation.
3. 
Smile or frown? When you see an individual, you can usually intuitively pick up on that individual’s emotions. Sometimes these feelings can run a gambit and may be covered by a wincing smile or strained laugh. Study the individual for a welcoming smile or any other facial expression. Watch body movements (shifting, toe or finger tapping, etc.) too, because these are usually closely tied to facial expressions. The woman pictured on the right, for example, is saying, “Hi. I would really like to talk to you but I am shy.” (Notice the hands crossed resting beneath her chin.) The smile however is genuine.
4. Nervous habits. If an individual is steadily tapping his or her fingertips upon a desk, table, or other platform, it means that the person is in a rush or may be a very impatient person. If you are a more laid-back individual, you will find that patience and impatience do not always go together. Intuitively and physically, you can also pick up on subtle habits like fidgeting with hair, tugging on ear lobes, or eye movements. When an individual is speaking with you, pay attention to which direction his or her eyes are shifting. If the person looks you straight in the face or slightly shifts her eyes to the right, she is being truthful. If the individual shifts his eyes overtly to the left, the person is often being dishonest. Also signs to look for which may or may not mean anything at all are eyes that ride the floor. Many times, when individuals are shy or aloof they may dread direct eye contact in fear of being “shut down” or “shut out”.
5. 
Voice. An individual’s voice also plays a pivotal role in how we perceive that person. Fast, high-pitched voices may be annoying to some individuals. In some cases, slow, monotone voices can be likewise boring. Using your intuition, you will find that your voice octave often matches a prospective match. It’s a matter of listening to your potential counterpart and determining if that individual is a good match. Also note that certain octaves are more ear-pleasing to one another, so while our octaves may not be perfectly in sync, our intuitive attraction is.
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, Your Intuition Girl
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan — Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
Help me to see through my fears
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Question # 2
Joan Marie, your newsletters have truly inspired me and I wanted to reach out at this time in my life when I am seeing a big boulder sitting right in front of me. I push people away and I am resistant to great advice and suggestions when they are presented to me. Please help me see through my fears so I can understand why I push people and opportunities away. I am so grateful for your help.
Karen H., Chicago
Answer:
Dear Karen:
Thank you for your beautiful note. So many of us push away our many gifts and opportunities without even realizing it; however, your awareness is a blessing and a chance for you to flow more easily. Pushing people away is a form of protecting yourself from getting hurt. Please look at all the people that hurt you and see the patterns you have created. Have you put yourself in a box hoping to keep everyone else out? That is your protection mechanism so you will not get hurt. It is almost as if you are walking around wounded and saying I won’t let anyone hurt me again.
I also encourage you to look at your need to be right or maybe you unconsciously feel that “I know it all.” The greatest opportunity for all of us is to become a student and listen to others suggestions and/or critiques. If you honestly believe that a suggestion does not feel right to you than yes, by all means respect that. However, my feeling for you is once you open up your heart to receive a helping hand many more opportunities will come your way.
Life is about giving and receiving—allow yourself to be in alignment for both and watch the flow of blessing come to you.
Many Blessings,
Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan – Intuitive Counseling and Intuitive Coaching Specialist
