Needing relationship advice
Posted by Intuition Girl
QUESTION # 1
Joan Marie,
I can honestly answer the question that if I had money I would not stay in my marriage. Neither my husband nor I are happy but I think we stay because we have children (and me because it’s more financially secure). We had an argument yesterday and he mentioned that we both messed up by getting married to each other because I’m not the one for him and he’s not the one for me. I feel the same way. I can even look back and see that there were flashing stop signs all over the place in the beginning and throughout our relationship before we even got married. The classic case of “I wish I knew then what I know now”.
I was confiding in an older lady friend (someone like a mother figure) who put it pretty bluntly that I might as well just stay because no one else out there is going to want me because I have three children. She says that’s too much baggage and it’s easier to have two incomes than just one. I’m scared to stay and let my life pass me by and I’m scared to leave and face the unknown and struggle with financial issues. I feel trapped.
Any advice?
Thank you.
Elizabeth
ANSWER:
Dear Elizabeth:
I thought your question was brilliant! My mom is going to answer this one because she, too, experienced a marriage that didn’t work. I, therefore, believe that she is the right person to address your concerns.
Dear Elizabeth – When I read your question, I completely understood the tug in your heart and the unhappiness that you are experiencing. Both you and your husband have agreed that your marriage is not working. As I see it, you have two choices:
One to take measures to work it out, such as counseling, which also requires a change in both of your attitudes and behavior as well as in changing the environment in your home or separation; whether that results in divorce or not. If both of you are in agreement that this union should have never taken place and both of you want to see a change, then both of you will need to sit down – communicate in a civil tone and mannerism and work on your alternatives.
My dear friend, a choice based on fear cannot be one of your decisions. If you are only willing to stay in this relationship because of a strong sense of security, then you will never be happy or feel content.
I divorced my first husband with four young children ages 2-7 and at the time, I hadn’t worked during those seven years. I started a new career with an investment from a friend of $500.00, which I paid back, and the rest is history.
It would be foolish and false for me to say that this is going to be easy because it is not. I made a decision, and from that day forward I knew that I must take responsibility for the outcome for my four children and myself. My husband did not support us financially even though he did move out of the house. I picked myself up by the bootstraps, so to speak, and for the next eight years I worked very long hours both on the job and as a Mom. We became a family of five and all of my free time was spent nurturing and supporting my children. It was only after eight years when I was stable and secure in my own right that I was able to meet and spend time with others. I did re-marry and my four children benefited from that union.
You have a lot of thinking to do. This is not an easy decision. There are many factors that need to be examined by you and I encourage you to be realistic. It is my personal opinion that a mother‘s primary responsibility is to her children, then to her spouse. I took that responsibility very seriously and I never wavered from it. Yes, it was hard. Yes it was exhausting and no, I had no family support. Whatever choices you and your husband make, please remember that you still can be a family with your three children and they can still feel safe and secure even if you do not always experience those same thoughts.
Seek guidance from God and the angels. They will most definitely help you on your journey if you ask them. Ask for courage, strength and guidance. Nothing is impossible if you truly believe.
Many blessings to you,
Joan Marie Ambrose, the MOM
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Listen to the Sounds of Silence
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When you read the title, possibly the first thing that often comes to mind is Simon and Garfunkel’s 1970s hit song, “The Sounds of Silence”. This is, in fact, one of the most profound statements and songs to date. While the lyrics speak about visions and the ability to break through to those willing to lend an ear and heart, many still do not truly “hear” the sounds of silence. These are the small recesses in the core of our being…in the crevasses of our minds. The illusion of all that we are and all that we have been is simply that: an illusion of what we truly could be if only we would take the time to hear what our higher consciousness is trying to convey to us. Are you listening?
Are you writing the song to your life and have not yet begun to sing it? Imagine how powerful your story could be if you allowed it to become the melody in your mind, body and spirit. Many times, you rehearse a part in the play of life over and over but never get on the stage to act it out. You automatically silence your intuition and your innermost feelings, because you do not believe you are worthy of what your soul truly wants; or perhaps you fear failure, regret or guilt. Emotional hang-ups often prevent you from fulfilling your life’s song because you allow them to take over the very essence of whom you really are, and who you are really destined to be.
For once, I want you to think about the statement, “Listen to the sounds of silence.” Find a quiet room in your home, maybe a bench in a secluded park, or while resting your head in a hot, sudsy bath. Close your eyes. Now listen to the sounds of silence. It is more than just the title of a song; it is the gateway to comprehending what your inner consciousness is trying to tell you. Silence is the golden opportunity for you to respond to what your heart actually wants. This is also the perfect time to tune into your intuition and listen to the song that is playing in your mind’s eye. What melody is it creating in your Soul Being? What metaphorical chords can you strum to put the tune into harmony and balance in your life? All you need is the willpower and the gift of intuitiveness to open up your heart and mind to what the sounds of silence are whispering your way.
Earlier, I mentioned that the song speaks about the ability to break through to those willing to lend an ear and heart to truly hear what the sounds of silence are conveying. It is not a science, nor is it a theory – it is a simple philosophy in life. When you take time to make time to tap into your innate gift of wisdom, you are ultimately listening for the breakthrough in the silence. Many people have traveled the world to find the truth and ultimate purpose in life. Some have died trying to do so. Some have been successful in their quest. One special individual, in particular, comes to mind — Mother Teresa of Calcutta who summed this thought nicely: “If you want a love message to be heard, it has got to be sent out. To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it.” In other words, you must feed your Soul Being by acting accordingly to what your silent intuition wants you to do. Are you ready to propel yourself forward? Listen to the sounds of silence, and suddenly you will find that you are singing and playing the most powerful song of your life.
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, your Intuition Girl
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Listen to the Sounds of Silence
By Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her Lifestyle Makeover Programs with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. Her Manifestation Method Program and Lifestyle Makeover Programs are designed to help people change their lives. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to: www.joanmariethegift.com
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How your Life will look
Posted by Intuition Girl
…When you follow your inner compass.
How many times have you went camping or perhaps on a long-distance car trip? Would you go without a compass or a map to locate your way through the rough terrain? That’s obvious: you wouldn’t. Most folks are conscious about their travel plans and want to make certain that they know where they are going and how to get from point A to point B. Now, imagine if you just had an inner compass to guide you along your way. Surprisingly, you do. But, in most cases, you either didn’t realize you had one, and if you knew you had one, you might not use it to your best advantage.
Today I am going to tell you how to tap into your inner compass, and how to make your inner compass useful to you. First, I want you to think about the core of your very being. What drives you, what compels you to act or do the things you do? Is it your train of thought? Is it a dream you have? No. In fact, your inner compass is that gut feeling, that raw instinct that tells you what you need to do and how to do it when the chips are stacked against you. It’s that inner drive, your intuition that gives you the hints and tips to sustain the life you are living, and the innate resourcefulness to mold the life you truly want to lead.
From this day forward I want you remember the word LEAP: Live Effectively and Prosperous. Every time you are countered with a decision in your life or when a challenge presents itself to you, I want you to LEAP. When you engrain this simple four-letter word into your mind and into your core being, you are metaphorically taking a LEAP forward in your life. You are actively making the choice to use your inner compass to lead you in a forward motion.
In life, you are often thrown monkey wrenches and twists and turns that you did not anticipate. That is where your inner compass and your “LEAP” mode come into play. Instead of being the forever damsel in distress or the prisoner to your own invisible bars, you are making your inner compass available and useful to you. What is your gut feeling telling you? Shhh…listen. Nine times out of ten, it is giving you the necessary directions to complete your goals; complete your journey.
Use your inner compass wisely. Use it daily. And never forget to LEAP. The end result of how your life will look is only determined by your mind’s eye and how you imagine it to be. The possibilities are endless.
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, your Intuition Girl
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How your Life will Look
By Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her Lifestyle Makeover Programs with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. Her Manifestation Method Program and Lifestyle Makeover Programs are designed to help people change their lives. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to:www.joanmariethegift.com
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan – Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
Do you believe there is a need to change yourself?
Posted by Intuition Girl
Dear Friends,
Many of us believe that there is a need to change the world whether it be our school system, our government or the way business is performed but we fail to recognize the fact that all change starts on the inside of each one of us first.
There is an inner problem that is facing the world and until it is recognized and dealt with, we will not be able to illicit change in our world order. It is our unwillingness to slow down long enough so that we can take inventory of our own lives–our own household and see the bigger picture of where we have been, where are we going and how are we planning to get there.
PRACTICE exhibiting the same discipline on yourself that you wish to invoke on others. Seriously! Gandhi famously put it: “We must embody the change we wish to see in the world.” If we wish to live in a society that is less violent, then we as individuals must take steps to become less violent whether in our actions or reactions to what is placed in front of us daily whether in entertainment, media or in social interactions because those negative emotions that we accuse others of possessing are being condoned by you.
Let us take our individual responsibility seriously and become the change that we wish to see in the world. Of course it won’t be easy–becoming a more conscious person never is!
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February 7 , 2011
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Trusting Yourself means trusting your Inner Compass
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Can you truly trust yourself to make all the right choices for your life? If you even hesitated slightly on that answer, your inner compass might not be in sync with your potentiality. Ideally, you want to gain and maintain perfect balance with your intuition so that you can attract and achieve overall health, wealth and prosperity in all areas of your lifestyle.
Understanding and making wise decisions is a choice you proactively make in alignment with your inner compass. In doing so, you are automatically setting yourself up for success. Ultimately, that is what anyone wants in life: to be a success. Successful in love, professionally successful, successful in health…the list goes on and on. What has been stopping you from owning your success?
To guide your journey in life, you must be willing to become the leader of your life. Remember in elementary school when the teacher made you the line leader? Wasn’t that a great feeling? All of a sudden you get to control how fast or slow your line goes. Not only that, you got to choose what direction the line was going to go and where it was going to wind up. Now, imagine if you had that control over your own life… Well, actually you do. Maybe you just have not realized that yet…or perhaps you have not been letting your intuition, your inner compass, give you the directional aides to help move you in the appropriate path.
It is really not all that difficult to fine-tune your inner guidance. In fact, the more you facilitate it, the sharper and brighter it becomes. And as you extract your intuition to meet your daily needs, you find that you are simultaneously and harmoniously putting balance where it belongs: in tune with Universal flow of energy.
What have you done to create the change you want to see in your life? Let’s get started on all your hopes and dreams in this new decade. It is never too late to become the leader of your life and it is never too late to refine your inner compass to get you there!
Allow me, Joan Marie, to help guide you on your journey to self discovery and help move you in rhythm with your inner compass today! I am offering a new 5-Month Interactive Program on Following your Inner Compass starting in February. I invite you to learn more about it and see if it is a perfect fit for you.
Until we speak again,
I am, Joan Marie, your Intuition Girl
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Trusting yourself means trusting your Inner Compass
By Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her Lifestyle Makeover Programs with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. Her Manifestation Method Program and Lifestyle Makeover Programs are designed to help people change their lives. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to:www.joanmariethegift.com
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan – Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
