Are your Goals accompanied with a Consistent Labor of Love?
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What actions have you determined are necessities in your life to keep you on track? If you’re pining for the straight and narrow path to success, then you must know that in order to achieve the affluence you so desire, you must love yourself first and be consistent in every one of your efforts. A few questions you must ask yourself are:
- What is it that I really want in life?
- How am I going to acquire these wants?
- How much passion am I going to put behind my goals?
- What steps do I need to take in order to achieve these goals?
- How much time am I willing to take to get the things I want?
After you’ve considered these questions, I want you to take out a pen and paper, your laptop keyboard, or whatever else you have at your disposal and begin to jot down ideas and thoughts resolving these questions.
Sometimes, we have to make small sacrifices to create a clear passage to the lives we want to lead. While we might like owning that high-maintenance SUV; the payments might be killing us financially. Or, we’ve put several years’ time into a work position only to stay in the same spot. Are you staying in a negative personal relationship because you’ve become accustomed to arguing? Have you seen the writing on the wall? That doesn’t mean you should allow your vehicle to get repossessed, that you should walk out of your relationship, or just outright quit your job because you’re not going anywhere. What it does mean is that you need to re-evaluate your state of affairs, and start using the tools that are available to you to make the best out of a lagging or negative situation. You are, after all, in control of your emotions and your actions. And if you are not—Why not? You cannot control the people around you. But you can control yourself…or better said, you can become the leader of your life—if that is your choice!
That being said, you must determine the necessary actions and efforts to keep your life on track. For example, if you are in a “terrible job”, you need to ask yourself if it is in fact the job that is terrible, or is it the feelings that you associate with the job that give it the appearance of being terrible. When you figure that out, that’s when you can decide what path you need to take in order to acquire a better position…or perhaps, become an entrepreneur in your own field to create real value in your life. The same holds true in relationships – both personal and professional. Relationships, just like working positions, take time, sacrifice, effort, labor, love, and communication skills. What are you doing in your life to heighten your potential and efficacy in creating and sustaining healthy bonds? And this is also spot on with professional relationships – how do you view the work you do? Would you “hire you” again? Would you want “you” working for yourself? Think about it. Are you creating your own problems at work?
Beyond work and personal relationships, finances (or lack thereof) often take center stage on the emotional baggage train. Do any of these hypothetical statements apply to you?
- “I can’t go to the gym because I can’t afford it.”
- “I can’t take a vacation because I don’t have the money.”
- “I’d love to take you to that restaurant, but it’s too expensive.”
- “How I wish I could buy a house, but times are tough.”
- “How can Jim (or fill in the blank) afford such a nice car?”
- “I’d like to have children, but I can barely afford to pay my own bills.”
- “I’m just not lucky like that other guy.”
More than likely, we’ve all encountered one or more of the above situations. And when we are honest with ourselves–it’s uncomfortable, too. Especially when someone asks you to accompany him (or her) and you begin concocting lame excuses as to why you can’t go. And envy is even worse. No matter how successful we become in life, someone, somewhere is going to have something bigger, better, and more expensive than you. That’s a fact. But, the good news is that you don’t have to “keep up with the Jones.” You just have to keep up with yourself – that’s it. Every action has an equal reaction. For instance, if you have made the active decision to pursue a higher position at work, what must you do to attain it? If you simply “want” the position, and do nothing to acquire it, then you will remain exactly where you are. Wanting something and doing something for that want are two entirely different means to an end: one is inaction (indecision) and the other is action (decision). How is your supervisor going to know that you want a particular position? She can’t always read your mind. Likewise, if you’ve been performing “just enough” or “not enough” at work, do you really deserve the position?
Do you have what it takes? Yes! Almost every individual has the mental, physical, emotional, and psychological capacity to achieve their hearts’ desires; unfortunately, they don’t always do it because of indecision, inaction, and complacency. We get comfortable in all of our relationships, much like we do in our own tennis shoes. We tend to overlook the holes, the wear and tear, the rips, the shredded laces…because they feel good on our feet. Eventually, our feet get soaked from the mud puddles that we sometimes have to walk through. Even track stars have to change shoes every now and then to maintain a proper balance and performance. Like it or not, we have to toss the old shoes and buy new ones that fit us and serve us better so that the paths on which we walk will benefit us. Which path do you choose to walk upon? What sacrifices are you willing to make to create forward motion? What choices are you making for you today to promise a wealthy and happy tomorrow?
If you’re still not sure how to stay focused and keep your life on track, but are willing to commit yourself to recharging your life and re-energizing your authentic self to become the person you want to be, then I invite you to participate in my upcoming Platinum Mastermind Group. In the group, I’ll teach you how to be self-sustaining and self-empowering. And I’ll show you how to use your intuition and sheer determination to transform your lifestyle into the extraordinary one that I know you can achieve.
Many Blessings,
Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
Are your Goals accompanied with a Consistent Labor of Love?
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Straight Talk with Joan Marie: Rebuilding your Self Image to Stop Procrastinating
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Question 2:
Dear Joan Marie:
I love receiving your newsletters and Monday morning inspiration. You are like a breath of fresh air that I need to breathe in on a daily basis. My question to you is that I procrastinate often. I know that I need to get certain things done but I continually put them off. I do it with bills, my business; and I constantly create turmoil within myself. Can you help me understand why I do this? Thank you so much for your time.
Sincerely,
Samantha Harding
Answer:
Dear Samantha:
Procrastination is often an issue wrapped around lack of self worth. It sounds as if you are creating an endless cycle for yourself to keep you in an emotional state of conflict. The key for you is to heal your emotional state. I suggest that you daily begin to talk to yourself and share with your Inner Soul, Your Authentic Self, all the good things that you are accomplishing. List several things that you are contributing towards that are blessings in your life.
Leadership is a common thread that weaves in the lives of all of us. How we envision our talents and skills determines how we project ourselves out into the world. I believe it is about you being a leader in your life. When are you going to step up and say I am worth it? You need to re-build your self-image and feel confident in your abilities. Trust your decisions and choices and know that structured time will help you move past your hesitation. Unworthiness is a learned condition that is no longer serving you. You need to create new habits within yourself and for yourself on a daily consistent basis in order for you to realize your true value.
Many Blessings,
Straight Talk with Joan Marie: Creating Space for Loving Relationships
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Question 1:
Dear Joan Marie:
I don’t know where to start; I am with a good man and I love him—the thing is, that we also live with his family, and never have any space or time for us and it is getting to me. I have tried to talk to him but he will not move and get us our own place to live. I have also tried to think of it as a good thing and tried to do and say all the right things but I don’t feel like it is my home. I feel like a prisoner, I stay in my room and I don’t eat all day until he comes home or I go to work and eat there. Maybe you could give me some words of wisdom to get me through this mess.
From,
Cynthia
Answer:
Dear Cynthia:
I understand that you are in a tough situation right now. My feeling is you and your partner need to sit down and make this a win/win for the both of you. Honest and sincere communication is one of the fundamental traits for a healthy and lasting relationship. It is important that you feel comfortable and accepted in your home environment and if you are both equally in love and wanting to make your relationship work, it will take both of you to commit to a mutual resolution.
I guess my first thought is to work on finding a solution that will satisfy both of you. If this living arrangement is temporary because he is working on saving money for your future home and life together, then you both need to set a time line and work towards that goal. For any relationship to last requires compromise and open communication; however, if he plans to live indefinitely with his family because he can’t see himself separated from them, you need to know that truth so you can find a solution that will best serve you, your heart and your health.
Before you moved into his families home, some of these discussions and points needed to be resolved. But since you are already knee deep into an environment that intimidates and stifles you, you my friend are the one who needs to make wise decisions. Either you accept the situation or change it. The power is within you. This is a great opportunity for you to step up and be a leader over your life. If this is your home too than you can make the best of it and enjoy your surroundings. No one is asking you to hide in your room. Some hard choices will need to be made by you. It definitely takes courage and strength on your part but when you decide to take charge of this situation and equally implement change with your partner, you will feel much better.
Tapping into the Power of Your Source
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Question 1
How do I tap into the power of my Source so I can, as you say, dance my way through life? I have been fighting most of my life but I do not want to fight any longer? I guess I am looking for peace in my life? If you can answer this question, I would be most grateful.
Samuel J.
ANSWER:
Hi Samuel:
The greatest statement you said is “I am looking for peace in my life”. The truth is you have peace inside of you; all of us do. All we have to do is remember how to tap into that gift. So often we ignore peace by focusing on the things that are not working or what we do not have. Many times as a default we tap into our confusion, or our fear or panic and we forget what is really inside of us.
In order to tap into your Source you must be able to see the light within you. I often call it the sunlight. Get clear on what it is you are fighting for; in order to know peace you must surrender to where you are, and stop the fight or battle within.
The Source inside of you is a well of Eternal Love and Peace waiting for you to drink from its plenty. What all of you need to do is sit in the sunlight with your heart open to receive the peace you are longing for. If you do this exercise often, you will feel the difference.
Many Blessings,
Joan Marie, the Gift – Intuition Girl
Overcoming paralyzing fear
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Question 2
Dear Joan Marie:
Every time I want to move forward in life I get severe anxiety attacks and I become paralyzed with fear. Will I ever be able to heal this?
Thank you,
Samantha Tucker
Answer 2
Dear Samantha:
This is a powerful question and one I deal with often with my clients. What seems to be happening is conflict between your Higher Self (your soul) and your Ego. It is really important not to force anything. Your child within is scared and you need to get to the bottom of it with her and find out why through your self-observation. Your Ego Mind actually believes that it is protecting you by bringing up your fear but in truth it is preventing your forward movement as you focus on your limiting beliefs.
I always recommend to my clients to ask their emotions to speak to them. Sit with your anxiety and fear- they have a voice- go beneath the words of what is there and allow the emotions to lift so you can let them go. 
By observing our Ego thinking, we can become aware of those beliefs and feelings that are holding us back. It is important to learn how to create a continuous flow of love energy. Any of my meditation CD’s will assist you with this. The Forgiveness and Healing Program will help tremendously as you change your feelings and dwell on that which brings you joy.
Our Ego is actually a gift to us when utilized in the right way. It reveals to us all those emotions that we need to let go of so we can grow and heal.
Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
