Changing Focus to Change your Emotional State
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QUESTION # 2
I am feeling all over the place. I am starting to feel cluttered in my mind and in my home and as a result, I am also feeling anxious. I am assuming that both feelings are interconnected but I honestly don’t know.
The holiday season is usually a time of great excitement, so I am wondering if that has something to do with it. In all honesty, I would like to feel more relaxed and at ease with myself…but it doesn’t seem to be happening.
I need help and I am hoping you will be able to give it to me. I don’t want to get sick and I certainly don’t want to create an accident because of my emotional state. Thank you
Lorraine C.
ANSWER:
Dear Lorraine:
Thank you for sharing where you are. I am sure there are many who are feeling the same way. The holiday season often finds people feeling anxious and sometimes out of control. When that happens to you, take several deep breathes in and relax. You are in control of your behavior and emotional state. Remember that!
Do not allow your circumstances to dictate your life. How do you do that?
1. When you recognize that anxious state, immediately try to shift your energy. Think of something that is calming and relaxing.
2. Change your focus—a short prayer or mantra helps me center and ground myself and it definitely shifts my energy.
3. Daily morning meditation ( even for a few moments) will help set the mood for the day.
4. Clean up your space—whether at home or work. Physical clutter is the breeding ground for mental and spiritual clutter.
5. Good eating habits and regular exercise are vital for your overall state of being. Junk food weights you down in more ways than one and keeps you sluggish.
A brisk walk once or twice a day will help you stay balanced. I find this process important for my personal overall healthy state.
6. Get a good night sleep – that is not silly but absolutely necessary for maintaining a healthy state of mind.
All of the above takes discipline and effort on your part. There are certainly times in my life when I want to give into my lesser ego self, but I truly know and understand that if I want a healthy and balanced life and if I want to enjoy the abundance that life has to offer, I—no one else—it is “I” who must decide what choices I honestly need to make to reach my desired outcome.
This can be a wonderful and playful time of year. I warmly invite you to practice these steps because I know you will begin to enjoy yourself more. Celebrate your blessings and honor you for who you are.
Many Blessings,
Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
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Straight Talk with Joan Marie: Rebuilding your Self Image to Stop Procrastinating
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Question 2:
Dear Joan Marie:
I love receiving your newsletters and Monday morning inspiration. You are like a breath of fresh air that I need to breathe in on a daily basis. My question to you is that I procrastinate often. I know that I need to get certain things done but I continually put them off. I do it with bills, my business; and I constantly create turmoil within myself. Can you help me understand why I do this? Thank you so much for your time.
Sincerely,
Samantha Harding
Answer:
Dear Samantha:
Procrastination is often an issue wrapped around lack of self worth. It sounds as if you are creating an endless cycle for yourself to keep you in an emotional state of conflict. The key for you is to heal your emotional state. I suggest that you daily begin to talk to yourself and share with your Inner Soul, Your Authentic Self, all the good things that you are accomplishing. List several things that you are contributing towards that are blessings in your life.
Leadership is a common thread that weaves in the lives of all of us. How we envision our talents and skills determines how we project ourselves out into the world. I believe it is about you being a leader in your life. When are you going to step up and say I am worth it? You need to re-build your self-image and feel confident in your abilities. Trust your decisions and choices and know that structured time will help you move past your hesitation. Unworthiness is a learned condition that is no longer serving you. You need to create new habits within yourself and for yourself on a daily consistent basis in order for you to realize your true value.
Many Blessings,
Straight Talk with Joan Marie: Creating Space for Loving Relationships
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Question 1:
Dear Joan Marie:
I don’t know where to start; I am with a good man and I love him—the thing is, that we also live with his family, and never have any space or time for us and it is getting to me. I have tried to talk to him but he will not move and get us our own place to live. I have also tried to think of it as a good thing and tried to do and say all the right things but I don’t feel like it is my home. I feel like a prisoner, I stay in my room and I don’t eat all day until he comes home or I go to work and eat there. Maybe you could give me some words of wisdom to get me through this mess.
From,
Cynthia
Answer:
Dear Cynthia:
I understand that you are in a tough situation right now. My feeling is you and your partner need to sit down and make this a win/win for the both of you. Honest and sincere communication is one of the fundamental traits for a healthy and lasting relationship. It is important that you feel comfortable and accepted in your home environment and if you are both equally in love and wanting to make your relationship work, it will take both of you to commit to a mutual resolution.
I guess my first thought is to work on finding a solution that will satisfy both of you. If this living arrangement is temporary because he is working on saving money for your future home and life together, then you both need to set a time line and work towards that goal. For any relationship to last requires compromise and open communication; however, if he plans to live indefinitely with his family because he can’t see himself separated from them, you need to know that truth so you can find a solution that will best serve you, your heart and your health.
Before you moved into his families home, some of these discussions and points needed to be resolved. But since you are already knee deep into an environment that intimidates and stifles you, you my friend are the one who needs to make wise decisions. Either you accept the situation or change it. The power is within you. This is a great opportunity for you to step up and be a leader over your life. If this is your home too than you can make the best of it and enjoy your surroundings. No one is asking you to hide in your room. Some hard choices will need to be made by you. It definitely takes courage and strength on your part but when you decide to take charge of this situation and equally implement change with your partner, you will feel much better.
Who do You Love?
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In his popular hit song, Bo Diddley asks the question, “Who do you love?” Today, I’m going to ask you the same question: Who do “YOU” love? Now I’m going to give you the right answer: “You.” You must love yourself first to achieve inner peace and happiness in your life. Don’t think it’s selfish to love yourself, because you are an essential part of YOU. 
To manifest wealth and success in your life, you must prepare your path for greatness by learning to accept and love every part of you. You do this by training your mind and heart to work in unison with your spirit body. The fastest way to transform your life into one that is personally and professionally rewarding is to start a daily meditation ritual, which will help to rest your mind, calm your nerves, and inspire your soul. Some of my favorite meditation methods include the use of relaxation CDs, being in nature, deep-breathing techniques, and journaling. Another great tool is the Manifestation Method – this personal success program is designed to help you manifest your heart’s desires.
Which meditation tool is right for you? That depends on your individual personality. For some, deep breathing techniques may work exceptionally well. Others find that a more guided program like the Manifestation Method, might work more efficiently.
The primary reason for meditation is to teach you how to love and accept yourself for whom you are, in this moment, at this time. It’s also a great forgiveness tool. Too many of us get caught up in overwhelming feelings of guilt and sorrow. When we meditate, it helps us to gain clarity; and improves our ability to wade past the murky waters that distort our views.
Once you are able to clear the rubbish from your mind, you are better mentally and emotionally prepared to rise above circumstance, and enjoy the nature that is you. This is what being in love with yourself is all about – it’s about being comfortable in your own skin. I want you to ask yourself, “Who do YOU love?” And when you do, I want you to acknowledge that it’s” YOU” who matters; and “YOU”, who hold the key to your fortune in life. You are, after all, a spiritual being capable of greatness in every way. Go ahead – love yourself today.
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, Intuition Girl
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Who do you Love?
By Joan Marie Whelan
About the Author: Joan Marie Whelan, an internationally known intuitive specialist, business consultant, medium, and coach travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and the Manifestation Method with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. For more info, please go to: www.joanmariewhelan.com
Overcoming paralyzing fear
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Question 2
Dear Joan Marie:
Every time I want to move forward in life I get severe anxiety attacks and I become paralyzed with fear. Will I ever be able to heal this?
Thank you,
Samantha Tucker
Answer 2
Dear Samantha:
This is a powerful question and one I deal with often with my clients. What seems to be happening is conflict between your Higher Self (your soul) and your Ego. It is really important not to force anything. Your child within is scared and you need to get to the bottom of it with her and find out why through your self-observation. Your Ego Mind actually believes that it is protecting you by bringing up your fear but in truth it is preventing your forward movement as you focus on your limiting beliefs.
I always recommend to my clients to ask their emotions to speak to them. Sit with your anxiety and fear- they have a voice- go beneath the words of what is there and allow the emotions to lift so you can let them go. 
By observing our Ego thinking, we can become aware of those beliefs and feelings that are holding us back. It is important to learn how to create a continuous flow of love energy. Any of my meditation CD’s will assist you with this. The Forgiveness and Healing Program will help tremendously as you change your feelings and dwell on that which brings you joy.
Our Ego is actually a gift to us when utilized in the right way. It reveals to us all those emotions that we need to let go of so we can grow and heal.
Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
